My father's forms of communication in his last days

[purehuman]

GPC...I think he WAS communicating with you.....and he was a lucky man to have you there with him....you stood by him till the end...no man could ask for anything more.

[GPC]

Originally Posted by tamiznluv

I am sure the hand squeezing was your dad letting you know he could hear you. My condolences.

Thank you.

[GPC]

Originally Posted by sera

GPC,

My deep condolences and prayers. Thank you for sharing, may my sharing strengthen about your Father's commmunication.

Briefly, Thursday evening, I was able to spend the night with DH in the nursing home; I spoke to him that morning,
a neighbor came that afternoon and he was now in a coma. Friday night, I got THE call. A neighbor took me to
see him. The neighbor asked how long-a couple of days.

Now. We entered DH room, she kissed him on the cheek, she didn't say anything to him nor he to her. Leaned
down to kiss him, I said "I Love You" and he replied "I Love You." Those were our last words to each other. The
Lord took him home to Heaven about 8 hours later.

(Note: DH died 6 months after being diagnosed with esophagus cancer, age 65. Usually we would read before
turning out the light, sometimes it would be 30 minutes later after he went to sleep, we always told each other
I Love You, even after he had been asleep!)

GPC, how wonderful your dear son was with you and his Grandfather; a dear son and Grandson.

Thank you for sharing your experience. It's so important to tell our loved ones how we feel, even if it's just on the phone. I'm so glad I got to be with my father and it was even better that my son was with me. Teenagers can get a bad rap much of the time but I really have to give a tremendous amount of credit to my 16 year old. He was so loving and caring with his grandfather; he showed a maturity way beyond his years. I'll never forget what he did for me and my father for as long as I live.

[Sockie]

Hope someone can hear me out there..My husband did the same thing on 6/27/18.Lung cancer He squeezed my had so tight it hurt but I didn’t care..He was strong in that way getting his point across..Did it twice and I asked him and he did ..Then I ask give me kiss he pucker his lips and kiss me I ask 3 time and he did..And then he went to squeezing my hand..He died that night..Did he say goodbye to me..I’m so heartbroken..The love of my life is gone..

[Sockie]

Can any one hear me out ther..My husband did the say thing and kiss me 3times then died later on that night.Squeezed my had hard and tight..What does this mean..I’m searching for answers..My heart is breaking..my husband passed on 6/27/18..fews days ago ..

[germaine2626]

Sockie,
I am sorry for your loss. IMHO, yes, by squeezing your hand and kissing you he was saying "Good bye" and also was giving you strength for the future. He was showing you how much he loved you.

[harry chickpea]

Originally Posted by Sockie

Can any one hear me out ther..My husband did the say thing and kiss me 3times then died later on that night.Squeezed my had hard and tight..What does this mean..I’m searching for answers..My heart is breaking..my husband passed on 6/27/18..fews days ago ..

What it meant is only something you can determine. It is possible that he was feeling the intense need for your presence and connection, or that he wanted to make sure you didn't leave. My sense is that you may be finding other tiny bits of evidence of your connection over the coming days and weeks. A love connection doesn't "die" even as the separation is horrible and wrenching.

[G Grasshopper]

I think our loved ones, when in the process of dying, communicate however they can. My husband gave me a look that I will never forget. It was shortly before he died and he could no longer talk. The love in his eyes was really indescribable. His eyes were filled not only with love, but I think with gratitude and with longing to not be separated from me. It was the most intense look I have ever experienced. I hope that as I gazed back, I expressed the same back to him. After a few minutes, I dropped my head into his lap and he stroked my hair one last time. My son (26 years) came over, and my husband likewise communicated with him. For those minutes we three were suspended in time, in love and loss. A few hours later, the brain tumors marched through his brain, taking any ability to express away, and death followed. Those few minutes communicated a lifetime of love. I imagine many people express those feeling in any way they can.

[tamiznluv]

(((Hugs))), GG.

[scotthouse]

Im so sorry for your loss Sockie and welcome to city-data (Yes we hear you)

GPC I hope your doing well now ..... Its always hard to lose a loved one for all of us!