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Old 10-20-2012, 11:32 PM
 
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Keeper, "I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye", along with "Widow to Widow" were my "go to" books every day for the first year and a half. They are so worn and dog eared from constantly reading and re-reading them. I wrote a lot for the first year as well. I did it all on the computer and kept it in a Word document that I look at once and a while. I really see my evolution as time goes by.
I'm new here and I'd never heard your experience before. I'm so very sorry your husband died. Your wound from that loss has to be huge. Like breaking every bone in your body all at one time, but no one can see the full extent of your injury. And it takes a long time for every bone in your body to heal. Thank you so much for writing about your experience. When my brother died in an automobile accident, I just wanted to talk about him for a long time. However, of course, I found out that it's just not acceptable to talk about death to most people. But I still had the need to talk about him. It was like for me somehow my talking about him and how he died kept him alive, kept the world from forgetting he lived. I just felt I had to make sure people knew about him, about his existence. Eventually, as I healed, I gradually stopped talking about him so much. When I first was told that he had died, it felt like a delicate crystal chandelier in my heart broke into a million pieces and crashed into my stomach. A huge emotional wound, just like breaking every bone in your body, yet no one can see the injury. Be sure you keep talking about your husband for as long as the words want to come out. I hear how wonderful he was, and it is a loss to all of us that he is no longer here, so thank you for telling us about him.
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