How would you feel if a loved one chose not to be buried in a suit or dress when they died?

[MaggieZ]

..in olden days they didn't have all the medical means and some were pronounced dead when in fact they weren't...so in some caskets they put items in case the person did wake up...that's why there is a "wake"

but having said that, who cares what a person is buried in? if they have a choice and specify, then you should honor that. But if there are no specifics, someone can pick something. That's why living wills are important.

[Mightyqueen801]

Originally Posted by WyoNewk

Well, many people die before they expect it and don't express any opinion on their burial garb. My late wife and I talked a little about dying, funerals, etc., but she died unexpectedly at age 51, so that hadn't been discussed. I did know she didn't want a fancy casket, ("Put me in a cardboard box.") and I knew she wanted to be cremated, and that she didn't want an open casket. Her daughters picked a new dress from her closet, one that she hadn't yet worn. And we gave the undertaker a pack of her cigarettes to put in the casket.



I just don't like the idea of an open casket. I'd rather people remember me being alive than stretched out in a coffin. My late wife felt the same way, so her's was closed. A few people wanted to see her. "I can't believe she's dead." One even went to the funeral home and tried to talk the funeral director into letting her view my late wife. He told her she'd have to get permission from me. Nope. Sorry.

Now that is out of bounds. What a creepy thing to do.

[Katie1]

My mom was burried in a long Flannel Night gown white with tiny red roses. My gf DH was burried in Blue Jeans Vest & his Fav Cowboy Hat!