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Little more...Sometimes I go through periods where I feel totally "alone." (Abandoned and rejected and "left for dead" in the middle of the desert!)...But I know that I have to go through the "void" and process all kinds of feelings in order to "heal" from my grief...And I have to stop expecting everything to come from the "outside" and do more work on my "inside." (If this makes sense!)...I have to establish a stronger bond and relationship "with myself!".. And find a way to come into my "very own." (Again!)...Anyway, these are the lessons I've been working on lately. I'm still in the "void!" But hopefully, my life won't feel "empty" and lonely forever!..Maybe one day I'll be able to "move on" a little more. Hope so! I'm trying!
And it is that you are trying, CA, you will reach each milestone when you can.
Whatever happened to the possible Casino adventure?
It is one of the mysteries I hope I understand better sometime. How are loved ones watching over us have the ability to come back at certain times in whatever way WE would recognize a visit. The guys and your parents probably have to take turns with you, CA. Mostly, the guys in your life, which include both of your sons.
I wonder if anyone has had two or more visit within 24 hrs. I'd never thought about that before......I only know of one visitor coming back to help.
I'm glad you and Gracie are exploring a new type of relationship.....cuddles are good forr every living being.
And it is that you are trying, CA, you will reach each milestone when you can.
Whatever happened to the possible Casino adventure?
It is one of the mysteries I hope I understand better sometime. How are loved ones watching over us have the ability to come back at certain times in whatever way WE would recognize a visit. The guys and your parents probably have to take turns with you, CA. Mostly, the guys in your life, which include both of your sons.
I wonder if anyone has had two or more visit within 24 hrs. I'd never thought about that before......I only know of one visitor coming back to help.
I'm glad you and Gracie are exploring a new type of relationship.....cuddles are good forr every living being.
MSR
Thanks for your post...I don't know about multiple visits either...Right after my husband died my older son seemed to "come through" and "take charge" for awhile. (Offer comfort!)...My son had passed-away a few years earlier...Before long, I had "signs" from my husband too...Haven't been to the casino yet. (Thanks for remembering!)...I agree with you about "cuddling." If I didn't have Gracie to hug I'd probably "dry-up" and turn into an old prune!
Thanks for your post...I don't know about multiple visits either...Right after my husband died my older son seemed to "come through" and "take charge" for awhile. (Offer comfort!)...My son had passed-away a few years earlier...Before long, I had "signs" from my husband too...Haven't been to the casino yet. (Thanks for remembering!)...I agree with you about "cuddling." If I didn't have Gracie to hug I'd probably "dry-up" and turn into an old prune!
Interesting your older son came through when he did, then your husband. So is it you youngest son's turn next? I wonder what they have to do to come back..........
Interesting your older son came through when he did, then your husband. So is it you youngest son's turn next? I wonder what they have to do to come back..........
I feel that I "hear" from everyone (at times) in one way or another...I sent a text to my longtime friend the other night and this phrase came into my head when I was writing: "Don't let the bed bugs bite you!" And I knew it was from my first husband...It's a long story but my first husband used to tease my friend about "bed bugs."...I told my friend that my first husband was "horning-in" and wanted to say "hi" to her too. (Through me!)....And we both felt this was true! She was happy to "hear" from him! And it made me feel good to hear from my "ex" too!...I knew the phrase came from him because I never talk (or think) about "bed bugs!"...My friend was with me when we (both) met my first husband in a summer school class.. So we all have a long history together.
Oh, CA, what a delightful story. Brings a smile to my face. When I was younger, I heard that phrase when going to bed, "Don't Let the Bed Bugs Bite" but I don't know if I head it from my parents or from my husband. It was a expression used before I went to sleep.
Thank you for sharing, Claire. Nice to be able to "hear" from your ex and share it with a good friend who knew and loved you both.
I feel that I "hear" from everyone (at times) in one way or another...I sent a text to my longtime friend the other night and this phrase came into my head when I was writing: "Don't let the bed bugs bite you!" And I knew it was from my first husband...It's a long story but my first husband used to tease my friend about "bed bugs."...I told my friend that my first husband was "horning-in" and wanted to say "hi" to her too. (Through me!)....And we both felt this was true! She was happy to "hear" from him! And it made me feel good to hear from my "ex" too!...I knew the phrase came from him because I never talk (or think) about "bed bugs!"...My friend was with me when we (both) met my first husband in a summer school class.. So we all have a long history together.
I totally believe we each function best with a specific sense. For some that is visual, for others it is auditory, tactile etc. I totally believe when we get thoughts we don't usually think about (unless they are thoughts to hurt another in anyway) we receive information via thoughts, dreams and hearing a loved one's voice in our brain etc. letting us and others know they may be watching over and communicating with us.
Hearing voices that are not familiar and urge us to hurt us or others is totally different. I've been told these voices are often angry whereas hearing a voice of someone we've loved and lost is gentle, soothing, playful etc.
Cool experience CA. Your friend had to believe these visits can exist for the response you received. Kind of cool to know an ex is checking in with you too.
I totally believe we each function best with a specific sense. For some that is visual, for others it is auditory, tactile etc. I totally believe when we get thoughts we don't usually think about (unless they are thoughts to hurt another in anyway) we receive information via thoughts, dreams and hearing a loved one's voice in our brain etc. letting us and others know they may be watching over and communicating with us.
Hearing voices that are not familiar and urge us to hurt us or others is totally different. I've been told these voices are often angry whereas hearing a voice of someone we've loved and lost is gentle, soothing, playful etc.
Cool experience CA. Your friend had to believe these visits can exist for the response you received. Kind of cool to know an ex is checking in with you too.
MSR
MSR...I agree with what you wrote. I tend to "hear" more than I "see."...But sometimes, I can feel the bottom of my foot being "tickled" and I know (or believe) that my husband is doing it. (Just to say "hi" and let me know that he is still around.)...We used to "play" and have "tickling sessions" every so often when he was alive.
Oh, CA, what a delightful story. Brings a smile to my face. When I was younger, I heard that phrase when going to bed, "Don't Let the Bed Bugs Bite" but I don't know if I head it from my parents or from my husband. It was a expression used before I went to sleep.
Thank you for sharing, Claire. Nice to be able to "hear" from your ex and share it with a good friend who knew and loved you both.
Thanks Smilin....Everyone in my family had a "playful nature." (Including my "ex!") So it's great when my loved ones "come-through" and give me some "comic relief!" And make me laugh and smile (again) etc...These days, life can seem kind of "blah" and boring and too "darn serious!" I don't have many (or any) fun-loving people in my everyday life...So I've been asking my loved ones to "come-through" more often to help me "lighten-up." I need help! How about you?
MSR...I agree with what you wrote. I tend to "hear" more than I "see."...But sometimes, I can feel the bottom of my foot being "tickled" and I know (or believe) that my husband is doing it. (Just to say "hi" and let me know that he is still around.)...We used to "play" and have "tickling sessions" every so often when he was alive.
Tactile -the sense of touch. Of course that would be how he would want to check in given how much playful tickling was a part of your relationship. Nice CA
MSR
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