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smilin...Your friendship has always meant a lot to me. Sorry you've been going through such a "rough patch." I have too...Maybe we can "be there" for each other when need be! Don't want to lose touch!...So many people "come" and "go" and I never want to "lose you" as a friend...No one (not even friends) can replace our loved ones who died. But some people can take the "edge" off our loneliness and sadness and misery a teeny bit. (At times, anyway!)...Every time you and I have talked on the phone I've felt better. And we've even found something to laugh about! (YEA!)...So please stay in touch when you can. I hope we can stay friends "for life" and forever and ever!
Oh, CA, you bet we will stay in touch. Sorry for not staying in touch. I get into a depressed state of mind and go inward, not wanting to inflict my sorrow or sadness on others.
I phoned a few people over the last few days, who Sam and I use to be close to and told them Sam passed away. It was sad because when they asked "how are Sam and you doing?" I broke down and cried and told them that Sam passed away nine months ago. I wasn't good contacting people about Sam's death. I am glad I did contact these people. They both told me Sam was a wonderful man and he was so nice.
I will always stay in contact with you, CA. We will always remain close friends, I apologize for not contacting you, I just didn't feel right telling you how low I am, did not want to inflict my sorrow on you or anyone. Sometimes, I feel so overwhelmed.
I really appreciate all of you and your kindness, caring and love. It is heart felt and ever-lasting.
This grief will have to take its course but until such time, I take ONE DAY AT A TIME!!
well i can speak from expierience I was a widow at 32 yep and i was not prepared to be a widow at all I made it for 9 yrs by myself and did not marry again until the kids were grown because I was scared to death that I would not and could not present the kids with another man in their life . I was so glad I made that decision and when i did meet the 2nd husband he is a good man and treats very well but it is a different kind of love than I had with my first husband but still good and Im glad I stayed by myself for 9 yrs and it does get better and soon you will be out and about and doing things again and I hope your broken bone heals soon .
smilin...I can relate. I haven't told everyone I know that my son died yet...These people didn't know he was sick and they will be shocked to hear about his death. (Because he always seemed so bubbly and alive.)...Thanks for all you wrote. I tend to "hide-away" too at times. But then I push myself to contact my close friends or my cousin in Kansas (etc.) to check on them and let them know that I'm still alive...When I was growing-up my Mom kept telling me: "You're not the only person in the world.. Or the only person who has problems."...She always pushed me to "think" about others and get "outside" of myself once in awhile.. So I do! And it feels good.
I told my wife long ago that if I died before her not to spend too much time greiving. Go out have some fun and do whatever she wanted. Id be cheering her on. Ilfe is too short.
First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. I did not go through all the responses, so forgive me if I repeat myself. I too, lost my husband 11 years ago next month. Give yourself a break. I did not want to be with anyone either. Still don't at times. You really need a years time before seriously getting involved with any man. It is just too soon. I have dated some, but there will never be anyone that could top him, and I don't think I'd want it anyway. You will go through and get to the time when you feel ready and you will know it. Take baby steps. And do not do what I did...do not sleep with the first guy that shows you he wants you. They will take advantage and you are too emotionally vulnerable now. I am sending you a big hug.
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