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Old 04-04-2013, 06:55 AM
 
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Just found out my Younger Brother has most 6 more months in this world.I have already went through losing my Parents which is normal.Lost a Granddaughter to SID's.But I've lost two Younger Sisters.Got another younger Brother on full time Oxygen.

I have been sick for years on the verge of Cancer but have fought it back.With losing my Younger Siblings I think why am I still here? And on the other hand I think I'm so glad to be alive!

Am I wrong,right don't know?? I asked my Pastor and he didn't have the answers.

brushrunner
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Old 04-04-2013, 06:42 PM
 
Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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You are here for a purpose. I believe ALL of us are here for a purpose in this life before we move to the next dimension.

No one has the answers - all we can do is treasure every moment on this spectacular planet and know that our lives have meaning, even when it feels like they don't or the odds are against us.

I know you must be having some really down days. Have you considered seeing a counselor or perhaps participating with a Grief group? What you are feeling must surely be grief, even if it is belated or early.

I wish peace to you. You've had a lot of loss in your life, you deserve it.
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Old 04-05-2013, 03:02 AM
 
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There are a lot of things that have no reason. Being born is one of them. Live does not have a "reason", it just is. Death, on the other hand, has a reason. Things happen to this old body of ours, and it dies.

When you stop to think about this wonderous body of ours, it's a wonder that we live as long as we do. There are so many things that could go wrong with it. Give thanks that your body is one of the well made ones that lasts a bit longer than the others.
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Old 04-05-2013, 03:12 AM
 
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Just found out my Younger Brother has most 6 more months in this world.I have already went through losing my Parents which is normal.Lost a Granddaughter to SID's.But I've lost two Younger Sisters.Got another younger Brother on full time Oxygen.

I have been sick for years on the verge of Cancer but have fought it back.With losing my Younger Siblings I think why am I still here? And on the other hand I think I'm so glad to be alive!

Am I wrong,right don't know?? I asked my Pastor and he didn't have the answers.

brushrunner
We are all here for a reason. But I even wonder what my reason is. So I go my being the best person I can be without trying to figure what the answer is. When God is ready for me, he will call. Until then, trying to enjoy every minute.

Brush- You have been through a lot. But you are still here. God must not be done with you here because he knows you are a good person! Accept your sadness, but allow yourself some happiness too!
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Old 04-05-2013, 08:20 AM
 
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When it comes to feeling, there are no "shoulds". We feel how we feel. What we control is what we DO.

If you are there for those you love, then what more is there? I'm guessing all the loss you have suffered makes you more compassionate than most to those who are grieving. We all have purpose, and maybe that is part of yours.

May your health continue to improve, and may you find the answers you need within your own heart.

Blessings.
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Old 05-01-2013, 03:14 PM
 
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akm4 is right brushrunner...there is no set way to grieve...no set way to feel. It's different for us all and no way is more "right" than the other.
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Old 05-01-2013, 05:57 PM
 
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There's actually ways to think and feel about death. As it is culturally embedded into one from the time of becoming conscious and on, by society and its norms. In many cultures, death is seen as mere transition, and is not grieved upon.
Here's a simple example. Alexander the Great managed to concur then known world, but had to pull back from India. Reason being, he had to fight against Sikhs, and even most seasoned of his troops failed against them. Reason being, Sikhs fear no death. And it is very hard to fight a skilled warrior - that has no fear of death, times thousands of them.
So, a lot of what you consider is not much but a cultural inhibition and limitations.
Death should not be taken easy, as should not be diseases, but it should not turn one's existence into fear filled nightmare.
What may help is, instead, dedicating some effort, and much it does not require, to resolve the REAL question. That being, what is it that you TRULY are, as when you find the answer, your perspective on matters discussed will change. As it did for me. And then, you can look at your and your family members lives from a different perspective, and contemplate, what and why, instead of falling into the pit of dark grief.
As there is no death.
Also, find a better spiritual adviser. Your pastor does not seam to cut it.
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Old 05-01-2013, 07:22 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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It sounds a little bit like you are feeling some guilt over their loss. Why them and not me? Then you are happy that you are alive and probably feel guilt over that happiness as well.

I do not know what your religious belief is, but I believe the Lord takes us when it is our time. It just is not your time yet, and unfortunately, it was theirs.

I am sorry for your loss....
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Old 05-02-2013, 12:07 AM
 
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Death is only partially perminant,theres a spirit world. Maybe in the afterlife we will all be as one,so no more violence and from 'my'understanding of what I read,we will build the heavens.So although I fear death its best to study on eternal life than temperary existence.
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