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Old 04-18-2013, 11:51 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn,NY
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I can't believe it's already 1 year that my dad is gone. God took him way tooooo soon. He was only 52 years old and didn't deserve to die at this age. I hate cancer with a passion. My dad never smoked or drank and he got this disease. .R.I.P ( 4/3/60-4/18/12)
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Old 04-18-2013, 12:32 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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I can't believe it's already 1 year that my dad is gone. God took him way tooooo soon. He was only 52 years old and didn't deserve to die at this age. I hate cancer with a passion. My dad never smoked or drank and he got this disease. .R.I.P ( 4/3/60-4/18/12)
I can't believe it's a year either, Tony! R.I.P. Tony's Dad.

(((HUGS, Tony.)))
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Old 04-18-2013, 01:02 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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Thinking of you, Tony. Yes, that was way too young. I am so sorry you and your family no longer have his presence in your lives.

Two of my grandparents died yesterday, April 17th, although 13 years apart. I think of them often during the year, but it always gives me pause to remember the anniversary of their deaths. I used to only feel the loss and sadness on that anniversary, but over the years, I find myself smiling when I think about my favorite memories of them.

Of course, my situation is very different from yours. We all expect to lose our grandparents -- but losing a father too early is tough, indeed.

Sending some more (((hugs))) along with Tami's!
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Old 04-18-2013, 01:06 PM
 
Location: quiet place
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there is always those things that go against the nature especially with some people. my dad is 56 yrs with sever heart failure ( he wish if he would die every day). He never smoke , drink or even being a nervous guy. let us just hope that such experience make us more conscious of life and strong enough to fight.

God help all.
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Old 04-18-2013, 01:27 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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there is always those things that go against the nature especially with some people. my dad is 56 yrs with sever heart failure ( he wish if he would die every day). He never smoke , drink or even being a nervous guy. let us just hope that such experience make us more conscious of life and strong enough to fight.

God help all.
Blessings to you, Resigned. Yes, life should be treasured. I am sorry to hear about your father and what he is struggling with. I hope both you and he will have the strength to deal with his ongoing health issues.
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Old 04-18-2013, 03:04 PM
 
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Sorry for your loss. It hurts to lose a parent.

good thoughts with you
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Old 04-18-2013, 03:26 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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I can't believe it's already 1 year that my dad is gone. God took him way tooooo soon. He was only 52 years old and didn't deserve to die at this age. I hate cancer with a passion. My dad never smoked or drank and he got this disease. .R.I.P ( 4/3/60-4/18/12)
Tony, I wish I could tell you it gets better, but my Dad was 86 when he died in 2005, and I still miss him today. Now I'm 66 and beginning to daily face my own mortality. I've been mostly a couch potato up until the last few years, still am overweight, drink very moderately, but don't smoke.

I probably should have gone before your father. The brevity of life makes me eternally grateful for each new day I see, and I always pray that somehow, someway, everyday, I can lighten the load for another in order to justify the extra years I've received to this point.

So I leave you with this poem. It is hanging on my wall at home superimposed over the Air Force men carrying my father's casket at his military funeral in Mobile, Alabama:

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Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away into the next room. I am I, and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, that we still are. Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way that you always used to. Put no difference in your tone, wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was, let it be spoken with effect, without the trace of shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was; there is unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner. All is well.
Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)
Canon of St. Paul's Cathedral.

God bless.
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Old 04-18-2013, 06:58 PM
 
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There can be no greater statement of love than when the child misses the parent. The only solace can be that the greatest purpose of one's life can't be realized until they we are gone.

Peace came to your Father and he is blessed that he has a Son who knows that.
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Old 04-18-2013, 07:03 PM
 
Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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I know how you feel...I am about to turn 63 soon. My father died before I turned 18. It took me about 9 years to adjust. My memory of him grow faint as I age - there is one thing I will always remember. When I was a boy and he took me in his arms...There was a great feeling of warmth and absolute love. I still miss that...He was one of the few people on earth that loved me with all his heart- My sympathy goes out to you...Just be glad that you had a father. They are the only great protectors that we will ever have...Yes a mothers care is like that of a queen...but the love of a KING can not be surpassed.
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Old 04-19-2013, 06:58 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn,NY
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