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Old 05-08-2013, 12:41 AM
 
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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On our news this morning , the discussion is over how long to have a break from work after the death of your child..Most places expect the person back after a week but it was mentioned that our PM Mr Cameron had a month off work when his son sadly died then he was eased back into work gently... To me though some people might need their work as a way of grieving... IM not really sure..A month , a year of course doesnt matter in these circumstances..as I cant imagine the sadness ever going away but is there a time when its right to return to work and should employers recognise this more.
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Old 05-08-2013, 08:36 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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Where I worked it was 5 days. You could take vacation days or sicks days if you wanted more.
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Old 05-08-2013, 10:20 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Anywhere I have worked it's only 3 days. Lots of places with no pay either.
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Old 05-08-2013, 01:18 PM
 
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A lot of employers are understanding and will let you use comp time, vacation, sick, and unpaid leave after the initial 3-5 days runs out. Hopefully the manager is understanding.
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Old 05-08-2013, 03:30 PM
 
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I had an employee who lost a child. It was absolutely heartbreaking. We told her to take all the time she needed. The first month we treated as sick time, the second month we treated as half-salary. She came back after sixty days. Even then, she occasionally needed time off to deal with it. I don't think anyone on our staff ever dared to complain.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:06 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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I had an employee who lost a child. It was absolutely heartbreaking. We told her to take all the time she needed. The first month we treated as sick time, the second month we treated as half-salary. She came back after sixty days. Even then, she occasionally needed time off to deal with it. I don't think anyone on our staff ever dared to complain.
As well they shouldn't, cpg. I can not even imagine what a person must go through with the loss of a child. Well, yes I can NOW with so many people on here that have lost children but IDK how a person can even go back to work after something like that. Takes real strength no matter what your situation. You sound like a very caring boss.
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Old 05-09-2013, 11:39 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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On our news this morning , the discussion is over how long to have a break from work after the death of your child..Most places expect the person back after a week but it was mentioned that our PM Mr Cameron had a month off work when his son sadly died then he was eased back into work gently... To me though some people might need their work as a way of grieving... IM not really sure..A month , a year of course doesnt matter in these circumstances..as I cant imagine the sadness ever going away but is there a time when its right to return to work and should employers recognise this more.

Personally, I highly doubt I could return to work in just a week myself.

But some folks find working more therapeutic - they HAVE to stay busy or be crushed by the pain.

So I think in heartbreaking situations like this, it's really great if employers can just be flexible and work to give the grieving parent what they need.
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Old 05-11-2013, 07:15 PM
 
Location: somewhere in the swamps of Jersey
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I came back after a week and worked on adrenaline for a year. Then I crashed. This is such an individual response. It depends on how your child died as well as what your coping mechanisms/resources are. It's wonderful to have compassionate co-workers.
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