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I don't think it's Anglos per se, but in American culture, people do tend not to celebrate/commemorate the dead as much as Latin American cultures and possibly some Native American cultures do.
In the South, it is common to visit cemeteries and "beautify" them . . . as many here do not have groundskeepers as such (many are private or church cemeteries in rural areas).
Many Southern (usually rural) communities still honor what is referred to as "Decoration Day." Interesting to note - Decoration Day is often celebrated on Memorial Day and the history is that Decoration Day was a precursor to the federal holiday of Memorial Day.
There is a book . . . you can find many links but this is just one I know about . . .
You are right! Anglo-Saxons are by nature a lot colder than Latinos...just one of their characteristics.
Really? WTH? OK. Well I am a white woman and I have spent a lot of time visiting my parents graves.
I know plenty of people who do not visit the cemetery because they believe the person is not there. I also do not believe my parents are there. Their earthly shells are there, but I still visit their graves.
I think of them no matter where I am.
White people are cold in nature in comparison to Latinos. Give me a break.
Really? WTH? OK. Well I am a white woman and I have spent a lot of time visiting my parents graves.
I know plenty of people who do not visit the cemetery because they believe the person is not there. I also do not believe my parents are there. Their earthly shells are there, but I still visit their graves.
I think of them no matter where I am.
White people are cold in nature in comparison to Latinos. Give me a break.
I Never meant to imply such a thing in my original post. As I mentioned, there is an area of the cemetery with very prominent monuments and a total lack of any Hispanic surnames, any ethnic names period. I have been toted to this cemetery and gone on my own there since the 1970s. I have never seen anyone visiting those Anglo gravesites, not even ONCE. That's why I asked. I'm also thinking that it's an older tradition that is dying out. I notice that my cousins and friends don't seem to invest nearly the time to the deceased. I know that they are "everywhere" spiritually, but it gives me a sense of peace and comfort with my own mortality when I clean their gravesite and "visit".
I visit my deceased relatives and close family friends at least 6 times a year. They are all buried in a Russian Orthodox cemetery in NJ. I go there to pull weeds, water lawns, clean headstones and sometimes talk to them. Fortunately, all the headstones have photos, so talking to them "face-to-face" really makes me feel like they're with me. And I feel good afterwards.
Me too. no photos just the carved names, etc. I visit every time I go home to visit. Precious memories.
It may be more generational than being anglo or mexican. As people move and grow more distant from their roots, they may visit less and eventually some not at all.
I Never meant to imply such a thing in my original post. As I mentioned, there is an area of the cemetery with very prominent monuments and a total lack of any Hispanic surnames, any ethnic names period. I have been toted to this cemetery and gone on my own there since the 1970s. I have never seen anyone visiting those Anglo gravesites, not even ONCE. That's why I asked. I'm also thinking that it's an older tradition that is dying out. I notice that my cousins and friends don't seem to invest nearly the time to the deceased. I know that they are "everywhere" spiritually, but it gives me a sense of peace and comfort with my own mortality when I clean their gravesite and "visit".
Have you ever gone over to that side and looked at the dates on the graves? It is quite possible that the people who used to visit those graves have passed on themselves, and the family members that are still living had never met the deceased or even know where they were buried.
BTW, I was responding to another poster, not you. I thought it was totally wrong to imply that a whole race of people are 'cold'........
I Never meant to imply such a thing in my original post. As I mentioned, there is an area of the cemetery with very prominent monuments and a total lack of any Hispanic surnames, any ethnic names period. I have been toted to this cemetery and gone on my own there since the 1970s. I have never seen anyone visiting those Anglo gravesites, not even ONCE. That's why I asked. I'm also thinking that it's an older tradition that is dying out. I notice that my cousins and friends don't seem to invest nearly the time to the deceased. I know that they are "everywhere" spiritually, but it gives me a sense of peace and comfort with my own mortality when I clean their gravesite and "visit".
That's probably because America used to be just America. Mainly white people, before we were "invaded". I've visited Mom, Dad and hubby once, my Mom twice, but feel no further obligation because as others say, they are not there, they are within me.
That's probably because America used to be just America. Mainly white people, before we were "invaded".
Interesting. I think it would be safe to say that Native Americans would consider "white people" to be the "invaders".
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Wouldn't that just suk??? 
My poor baby! 
