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Old 06-03-2013, 09:09 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Speaking about Moms...Tomorrow is the anniversary date of my Mom's death. Sure miss her!
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Old 06-04-2013, 07:08 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Speaking about Moms...Tomorrow is the anniversary date of my Mom's death. Sure miss her!
I hear you, CA. I was so busy moving this week that it wasn't until the day after, the 3rd, that I realized that the 2nd had been the 21st anniversary of my Mom's passing. 21 years. I thought back then that my life would never go on. Amazing how the years passed.
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Old 06-04-2013, 12:09 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Tami...My Mom has been "gone" a long time too. (20 years.).. The years definitely "roll-by" fast. Don't they?...I wish I had my Mom to "turn-to" at times. She had a way of helping me "lift" my "spirits." (And look on the "bright side.")...Sorry you don't have your Mother with you either.
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Old 06-05-2013, 08:01 PM
 
Location: SoCal & Mid-TN
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Speaking about Moms...Tomorrow is the anniversary date of my Mom's death. Sure miss her!
Oh, I so dread the first anniversary of my mom's death (it's in Oct). I'm sure it never gets easy. I have an aunt who died on her son's birthday. *big hug*
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Old 06-09-2013, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Spikett...I hope you do "okay" as the anniversary date of your Mom's death gets closer...My younger son died last September. His birthday was (is) at the end on May. And we always celebrated his birthday over Memorial Day weekend...I was doing "okay" until Memorial Day came around. Now I'm dealing with all the "old wounds" and "floodgates" of tears off and on. (Ahead of the one-year anniversary date of his actual death.)...But it's "okay." I was probably holding-back too many tears.
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Old 06-09-2013, 01:13 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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Oh, I so dread the first anniversary of my mom's death (it's in Oct). I'm sure it never gets easy. I have an aunt who died on her son's birthday. *big hug*
It does get easier, Spikett. Each day that goes by does ease the pain bit by bit. I can now think, talk to or about my mother without shedding a tear. The first year, forget it, I'd cry at the thought of her or the mention of her. I think it took me about 3-4 years before to fully get over the "shock". It took about the same for my dad.
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Old 06-11-2013, 04:27 AM
 
Location: "Daytonnati"
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Do you all do something to mark the day of your loved ones passing?

I do

I usually take a long walk/hike in a nearby nature preserve, making a point to be on the trail, out in the woods and prairies, around the time of day my partner passed.

It's sort of calming, a time to reflect, in a good setting.
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Old 06-11-2013, 07:01 AM
 
Location: Philaburbia
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Do you all do something to mark the day of your loved ones passing?
Last October was only the first, but I imposed upon my sister in Michigan for a long visit (she didn't mind, since I watched her kids while she and her hubby went away for the weekend previous) and some unconditional love from my teenage niece and nephew.

I didn't want to be alone, I didn't want to be at work or at home, and I didn't want to be anywhere near my in-laws and their detached and belated sympathy.

Did that sound bitter? Oh, well ...

I try to call my mom on the anniversary of my dad's death (14 years now), just to let her know I'm thinking of her.
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Old 06-11-2013, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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I don't want to act (or pretend) that an anniversary date (or birthday) is a totally "normal day."...I might have things to do. (During the day.) And they may be "off my mind" for awhile...But all in all I want to "think" about my loved ones. And "remember" everyone. (On their special days.)...And cry if I get the "urge." Or even "voice" my "regrets.".. I want to take "joy" (and delight) in all the "happy times" we shared together..Sometimes I even end-up laughing because I think of all the "cute" things they said or did. (That "brightened-up" my life!)
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Old 06-11-2013, 10:04 AM
 
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I don't want to act (or pretend) that an anniversary date (or birthday) is a totally "normal day."...I might have things to do. (During the day.) And they may be "off my mind" for awhile...But all in all I want to "think" about my loved ones. And "remember" everyone. (On their special days.)...And cry if I get the "urge." Or even "voice" my "regrets.".. I want to take "joy" (and delight) in all the "happy times" we shared together..Sometimes I even end-up laughing because I think of all the "cute" things they said or did. (That "brightened-up" my life!)
Make sure you do these things every single day, then the anniversaries are much easier to handle.
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