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Old 07-12-2013, 01:27 AM
Location: 900 miles from my home in 80814
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When I moved from our Colorado family home to our "snowbird" condo near Tucson, I had no choice but to declutter and do a major clean out. The house was full of 40 years of marriage, kid, inherited, purchased, collected.......stuff. I spent over a week at the house making piles: Trash, move, sell, donate. I had a construction sized trash dumpster out front, and I couldn't believe how much "stuff" could easily be tossed.

Since the condo was already furnished fully, I also had to decide which house's things I wanted more. I liked the china from Colorado, so I packed up the china here in AZ; my set of knives here was nicer, so I packed up the other knife set, and so on. There were so many logistical decisions to make. When the movers got here, I had to go through this condo and again decide: trash, sell, donate, keep. I finally was able to blend the two houses, keeping my favorites from each and mostly donating the excess. Nothing like a major move to make you take stock of what is really necessary or wanted.

I had kept so much of Bob's "stuff" as it was familiar. I tried to recreate much of the Colorado house in this condo because it looked right: same stuff on the nightstand, in the closet, on the counters... but over the past three years, I've been able to let go of his things little by little without feeling like I was throwing him away, and make the rooms mine. I've kept all his things that mean a lot to me, as well as some things I know the kids will find interesting, but I know when I pass on, or go to the home, or whatever and the kids have to go through my stuff, the majority of it will end up at Goodwill or in the trash.

I am glad that I kept the extra sets of china, pots and pans, and linens. They may not be Andrew's taste, but at least he has a fully furnished bathroom and kitchen, and with the stuff from his bedroom, his apartment only needs a couch and he's set for a long time.
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