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Old 04-06-2018, 11:10 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I don't see why it's weird. It's really no more weird than embalming someone, trying to make them as they were after they are dead, and putting them on display. It's not natural.

What is natural is possibly wanting to remember the moment, even if it's painful. Maybe tacky during a service, but after....no.

I have a picture of my father in a coffin. I did not like the way he looked. I have always thought the whole pomp and circumstance is odd. People die. We try to pretend it's not real.

OP, I'm sorry for your loss.
My father's hair was parted on the wrong side. That really blew it.
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Old 04-07-2018, 08:52 PM
 
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I just saw this,,,personally I have no desire to take photo of the dead in a casket. I have pictures of my mom/dad when they were first married and pics of them at their 50th wedding party and other pics of them around my apt....in a casket NO.
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Old 04-26-2018, 05:37 PM
 
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ok. so my papa’s funeral is saturday, and i have no pictures of him recently. i have pictures of him and my dad holding me when i was a baby. but heck, that was forever ago. he lived in New Mexico and never came to Iowa to see us. is it wrong to take a picture of him? i feel like it’s wrong but, i really want to have a picture of him. i miss him dearly.
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Old 04-26-2018, 05:46 PM
 
Location: North State (California)
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ok. so my papaís funeral is saturday, and i have no pictures of him recently. i have pictures of him and my dad holding me when i was a baby. but heck, that was forever ago. he lived in New Mexico and never came to Iowa to see us. is it wrong to take a picture of him? i feel like itís wrong but, i really want to have a picture of him. i miss him dearly.

It is your father & if you want a photo of him, take one. Your choice, do as you want. Condolences on your loss.
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Old 04-26-2018, 07:22 PM
 
Location: northern New England
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I haven't read the whole thread but "Ask a Mortician" on YT debunks the whole "People were propped up after death for standing photos" thing.

I have some funeral pics on my computer right now - they were in a very large lot of slides that I bought, scanned, and sold on Ebay.

I used to work at the Harvard Observatory where there is a 19th century painting of a young man who looks to be nodding off. It was explained to me that he committed suicide and it was a post-mortem painting (building was named after him, I think). I always wondered why the painter couldn't have tried a little to make him look not dead.
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