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Old 07-21-2013, 03:15 AM
 
Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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Gentle reminder update -

Folks, let's please remember - this is a GRIEF AND MOURNING forum, which makes it a little different than the other General forums on C-D.

There are people who come here and post after-loss thoughts and feelings, whose hearts are heavy, and who are hurting. This is not the place for hard debate, for bluntness, or for strong criticism. Most of the people here need a shoulder and some comfort.

Please be careful as you post and take the emotions that are projected onto the blue screen into account.

Thanks for your participation - let's just be careful to get everything in the right forum and be cognizant of emotions running high in this forum, and be aware that everyone grieves in their own fashion, in their own time.

Thanks so much for your participation, your understanding, and the hope and healing you all provide here to those who need.

Last edited by Sam I Am; 08-06-2013 at 03:30 AM..

 
Old 01-14-2018, 10:05 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in northern Alabama
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Just a note that I have taken on moderating this forum. Compassion and empathy between all of the forum members has been the rule and I don't see that changing. Grief eventually touches almost everyone. Everyone has his or her own experience, please respect that and be supportive. Beware of trying to"fix" what is a natural process. If you have questions, feel free to DM me.
 
Old 04-14-2018, 12:35 AM
 
Location: Somewhere in northern Alabama
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Reiterating -

Everyone has his or her own experience, please respect that and be supportive.
 
Old Today, 04:27 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in northern Alabama
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A further clarification on language allowed here. With grief, the griever will have heightened sensitivity to people who might be insensitive, unthinking, or worse in their actions or comments towards the grieving person, and comment on that. This is normal. Remember that the relating might be a little off, intentions misinterpreted, and that there might be other factors involved.

If you say that the comments or actions a poster has related in their post seem strange or even abusive, that is offering a reality check from your perspective. If subsequent information reveals that you were wrong, you have a graceful way of saying that you weren't aware of all the information. When you name call and call a person an oaf or worse, there is no grace, either in your initial judgmental comment, or if you were to have to backtrack and admit the name you used was not warranted.

The fact that crassness has invaded other areas of life, and profligate name calling has become common, does not mean it is allowed in this forum, where decorum and kindness are valued.
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