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Old 10-18-2013, 03:14 PM
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Somebody who really hurt and upset my mom passed away. I won't name names, but at her death she was a very miserable person. People don't hurt people unless there's something hurting them inside. I can't imagine a decent person just deciding one day to alienate everyone they know for no reason.

I won't go into the details, but I will say it takes a LOT for my mom to end a friendship with someone, and this woman managed to do it.

I went to the funeral of that person on October 10th. Mom and I went together. It was beautiful, but her family COMPLETELY ignored her chosen recessional hymn and put in something else. This person wanted "Jesus, Remember Me" and instead the family threw in "How Great Thou Art" despite hearing many times what this woman wanted. So after the funeral, I stood by the hearse and I sang "Jesus, Remember Me" all by myself. I shut my eyes and forgave, and I stopped hearing the people around me. It was just me in the presence of God, giving the gift of my voice to say goodbye.

You know what? The anger I had lifted away. I gave it to God, and now it's gone. She is at peace and I am at peace knowing she is out of pain.

Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.

Has anyone else experienced forgiveness like this?
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Old 10-18-2013, 06:16 PM
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You truly understand the purpose of forgiveness. It is not for the person who was wrong, but for those that have been wronged.

That was wonderful of you to sing for her.

I am happy that you came to closure on this and in such a wonderful way.
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