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Old 07-18-2014, 05:57 AM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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My condolence to the loss of your love ones.
My doctor told me that status of the eye-lid only depends on the final state of the related muscle group and not necessarily reflects sufferings or disappointments that the deceased gone through. When a person dies, all of his muscles relax. If the eyes are open at the moment of death, they will usually stay that way. The body shuts down, and the muscles that keep the eyelids closed simply failed. Even if someone had their eyes closed at the moment of death, they will probably open up a short while later due to the relaxation of the eye-lid. That means the majority of people will end up having their eyes open after death.Unfortunately, such phenomenon was confirmed following the passing of my late husband last August and the death of my ‘ex’ (father of my eldest daughter) in November. When they died, their eyes were both staying wide open. I closed them soon after they passed in order to let my daughters (age 21 and 24) see them. But when I pre-viewed them at the funeral home the day after, I notice that both of their eyes re-opened but I failed closing them again despite repeated attempts. I was just grateful that my daughters were not around when that happened. I insisted not letting them remember daddy this way. Last month, my psychic finally managed to make contact with my former husbands and they both expressed deep peace at their time of demise. And there was no mentioning about any suffering or unloadable issues at death. Well, I know it might sound superstitious but I visited her for curiosity sake, and hopefully, getting closure and peace of mind! That was the very first time that I met this psychic but the descriptive details of my earlier life really shocked me! Without me saying one single word, she described my two former marriages (down to the loss of my wedding ring during our vacation in Spain) by the day and managed to pinpoint that both my former spouses are now dead, and within months from each other!

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Old 08-28-2014, 11:15 AM
 
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Well...I remember my Grandfather died with his eyes open and looking upwards to the ceiling with a smile on his face...don't know what he saw, but was happy he died peacefully. Perhaps he was "looking" towards something at the time. So sorry for your loss.
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Old 08-30-2014, 11:41 AM
 
Location: NoVa
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I don't think it means much of anything, really. When my father died his eyes were open. I had to close them. =(
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Old 08-30-2014, 05:16 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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I think it just means the person's eyes were open at the time of death, sometimes the eyes are closed.
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Old 08-31-2014, 04:25 PM
 
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it means usually that the person has been dead long enough for the muscles to completely relax and allow the eyelids to slip open.
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Old 08-31-2014, 06:25 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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it means usually that the person has been dead long enough for the muscles to completely relax and allow the eyelids to slip open.
I have to stick with whether or not they are open when the person passes. It has been my experience, at any rate.
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Old 09-03-2014, 02:01 AM
 
Location: Mayacama Mtns in CA
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Default What do eyes open at death mean?

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The hospice nurse told me it means nothing; that there are some involuntary muscle contractions that go along with death at time; no matter how painless.
I think this is the most accurate.

When my beloved daughter departed this earth, her eyes came open. She'd not opened them for the last 48 hours of her life. I gently closed them for her. Then I had to do it a second time, because they'd come open again; it was an involuntary muscle function. I knew she was no longer living because of how her final breath had been taken. The hospice nurse had prepared us for these things, but it was me who was there by my daughter's side at that moment.

So....I'm pretty sure the meaning is from mechanical, physical states only.
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Old 09-03-2014, 08:44 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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I think this is the most accurate.

When my beloved daughter departed this earth, her eyes came open. She'd not opened them for the last 48 hours of her life. I gently closed them for her. Then I had to do it a second time, because they'd come open again; it was an involuntary muscle function. I knew she was no longer living because of how her final breath had been taken. The hospice nurse had prepared us for these things, but it was me who was there by my daughter's side at that moment.

So....I'm pretty sure the meaning is from mechanical, physical states only.
Oh my goodness, Macrina, Bless you! I would have fainted or had a heart attack. (((HUGS)))
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Old 10-05-2014, 01:26 PM
 
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Well I'm from the deep south. I was told when a relative die with their eyes open they were looking back for someone close. My aunt died with her eyes open and five of my relatives died soon after. True no lie.
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Old 10-05-2014, 01:45 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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It is very common for folks to die with their eyes open.

Perhaps you have seen movies set in the 19th C or earlier or photos from the late 1800s where people have put coins on someone's eyes after death? That was to close their eyes and keep them closed b/f they were viewed in their caskets or at a wake. The muscles of the body can cause the eyes to stay open after death.

Today, something many people are probably not aware of -- morticians sometimes have to put a line of adhesive on the eyelids to keep them shut.

All sorts of "old wives tales" have cropped up over the centuries to "explain" why someone dies with his/her eyes open but the bottom line is . . . muscle contractions.
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