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Old 10-06-2014, 10:47 AM
 
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My mom's eyes were open when she died but my dad's eyes were closed. My husband's eyes stayed closed also.
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Old 10-07-2014, 12:46 AM
 
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I think most people's eyes are usually open only because if they were sleeping, or in a coma with eyes closed, the eyelids relax and the eyes slightly open, or when someone dies suddenly, their eyes didn't have a chance to close.

My mom died suddenly and her eyes were open as were my husband's. My dad died after being in a coma, and his eyes had been closed, but "slid" open half-way after he died.

I did know about the eyelid glue from my grandmother's death in 1975. She died peacefully of old age in her sleep, but at the viewing, the person who did the preservation of the body was sloppy with the glue. We all asked what was the sticky stuff on her eyelashes, and that's when we learned her eyes had been glued shut. So was her mouth, and they did a lousy job on that, too.
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Old 10-09-2014, 04:35 PM
 
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This was exactly the same question I had, my twin brother died suddenly in his sleep and was found in the morning spread eagle across his bed with his eyes open and I've been distraught he woke up just before death and suffered
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Old 10-09-2014, 04:43 PM
 
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Today, something many people are probably not aware of -- morticians sometimes have to put a line of adhesive on the eyelids to keep them shut.
My dad told me this when i was little and he also told me they sometimes glue the mouth shut.
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Old 10-10-2014, 12:03 AM
 
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My dad told me this when i was little and he also told me they sometimes glue the mouth shut.
yep, i agree with you. they do that to make the eye and mouth firmly shut.
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Old 10-19-2014, 01:41 AM
 
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My grandfather just recently died in a Nursing Home.He had Dementia but was still healthy to me was still eating and drinking and active.My mom got a call from the Nursing home that my grandfather passed away in his sleep.It was such a shock to me because he showed no signs that he was dying.If he did he would've had some family their by his side when he passed but instead he died alone.I don't know if foul play was involved because my grandfathers eyes were slightly open and his mouth was so dry and his hands were curled like he was trying to take off something.To me it doesn't look like he died in his slee
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Old 10-19-2014, 03:07 AM
 
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When my mother died the nurse said that sometimes when a person dies their eyes stay open or open when they had been closed (while sleeping) or sometimes the reverse happens.
I think the whole idea of dead people with eyes being open or closed is more of a spiritual concept than a biological one. Sure, the muscles in your face relax after you die, but people consider death to be more similar to "sleep" than being "awake" -- so the idea of a corpse with open eyes is unnerving.
This was even a subject in a Star Trek: Next Generation episode -- the Klingons would keep the eyes of their dead open to "face the afterlife with open eyes as true warriors" or something like that.
KlingonDeathCry.mp4 - YouTube
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Old 06-21-2015, 06:16 AM
 
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My mother passed away in December 2014. I closed her eyes and 2 hours after her death, I held her one last time before the mortuary took her. Upon holding her, my Mother's eyes opened. Once again, this was two hours after my Mother was declared dead. Why? What does this mean?
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Old 06-21-2015, 09:08 AM
 
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My mother passed away in December 2014. I closed her eyes and 2 hours after her death, I held her one last time before the mortuary took her. Upon holding her, my Mother's eyes opened. Once again, this was two hours after my Mother was declared dead. Why? What does this mean?
Ugh, creepy. Sorry for your lose.

Muscles. Rigamortis not setting in yet.
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Old 06-21-2015, 03:59 PM
 
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My Mom's eyes thankfully did not open at the moment she died. Her mouth had been open as she had been mouth-breathing with an oxygen mask. I tried to close it but it didn't move. It couldn't have been rigor mortis that fast but I didn't want to take a chance.

My Mom had had severe brain bleeding from a fall, and died six days later without ever regaining consciousness. When I first got there the day after the fall, a doctor opened her eyes to check her and there was absolutely no life behind them. I will never forget how glassy they were. That's how I knew -- she was long-gone. I just waited the six days for her body to catch up with her spirit.
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