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Old 12-20-2013, 02:30 AM
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That's a start, CA!!! My first Christmas, I went all out like usual mostly because I didn't know what else to do, and because I thought Andrew expected it. Actually, although I was on auto-pilot and dead numb, I still remember standing in the living room with all the lights out except the Christmas tree, and just crying so hard for missing Bob (2 months almost to the day), but also because it was so familliar that it was comforting. It'll come CA. You're doing well, and smart to give it time. Baby steps are important...keep taking them!
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Old 12-21-2013, 09:50 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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That's a start, CA!!! My first Christmas, I went all out like usual mostly because I didn't know what else to do, and because I thought Andrew expected it. Actually, although I was on auto-pilot and dead numb, I still remember standing in the living room with all the lights out except the Christmas tree, and just crying so hard for missing Bob (2 months almost to the day), but also because it was so familliar that it was comforting. It'll come CA. You're doing well, and smart to give it time. Baby steps are important...keep taking them!
Thanks Marcy...My son talked me into selling at our indoor swap-meet (again) the Christmas after my husband died. (In 2010)...We had a lot of stock and furniture leftover from our former gift stores in storage...I decorated trees in our booth that year. (Even though I was probably a walking "zombie" as you mentioned in your post.)...My son started having health problems about 6 months after my husband died and life became a "roller coaster ride" all over again. He was in and out of hospitals for the next year and a half or so before he passed-away...Whew! So I guess it's a "big deal" that I felt like putting some strands of tinsel up this Christmas. Thanks for the pat on the back! And "kudos" to you for all the decorating you did this year! Hope you have lots of fun with your SIL and family!!
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Old 12-23-2013, 09:21 PM
 
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Thanks MSR! Smilin and I are "doing Christmas" at a different casino. (Not the one packed full of family memories.)...Well, all of the casinos have memories for me. This whole area is "power-packed" with memories of my former life with my family...But I'm still looking forward to making new memories this Christmas with Smilin...I hope you do okay at Christmas. Will you spend the day with friends and family members? I think you mentioned that Crick's birthday was (is) on Christmas day. This must be rough...Sending you a BIG Christmas hug across the miles!
I'll be excited to hear how the two of you do on Christmas, CA. I'm glad it is something you are both looking forward to. Sometimes memories can be healing too. And creating new memories is always good.

I think I posted I got my Christmas CCs brought to me. In the container was a Christmas Card Crick had written. There was no date on that card. It seemed like it was just written.

For Christmas, I'm mainly driving everyone bonkers. But not on purpose.
My M.D. and I decided about 10 days ago it was time to send my medical records and MR.I to three neurosurgeons. This is high risk so we'll see if anyone will see me. Hopefully, UCSF, as it is the closest. I have had such bad physical days I really haven't thought much about Crick

That was until yesterday. I got a knock on my door and answered it. I was stunned with who was there. A specialty surgeon who practiced at the same facility as Crick. As a friend of mine says, "If you can get a surgeon to make a house call 200 miles away, that friend was impressed." That visit did me a lot of good.

I'll have to see how well, or not, I am on Christmas to decide if I want to see anyone. I've had invitations but I honestly consider yesterday with my surprise visitor to have be part of the magic of Christmas.

If I don't post again, Merry Christmas everyone

MSR
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Old 12-26-2013, 09:26 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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I'll be excited to hear how the two of you do on Christmas, CA. I'm glad it is something you are both looking forward to. Sometimes memories can be healing too. And creating new memories is always good.

I think I posted I got my Christmas CCs brought to me. In the container was a Christmas Card Crick had written. There was no date on that card. It seemed like it was just written.

For Christmas, I'm mainly driving everyone bonkers. But not on purpose.
My M.D. and I decided about 10 days ago it was time to send my medical records and MR.I to three neurosurgeons. This is high risk so we'll see if anyone will see me. Hopefully, UCSF, as it is the closest. I have had such bad physical days I really haven't thought much about Crick

That was until yesterday. I got a knock on my door and answered it. I was stunned with who was there. A specialty surgeon who practiced at the same facility as Crick. As a friend of mine says, "If you can get a surgeon to make a house call 200 miles away, that friend was impressed." That visit did me a lot of good.

I'll have to see how well, or not, I am on Christmas to decide if I want to see anyone. I've had invitations but I honestly consider yesterday with my surprise visitor to have be part of the magic of Christmas.

If I don't post again, Merry Christmas everyone

MSR
MSR...Great that you had a personal visit from the surgeon. YEA!...I hope that you'll be able to receive the treatment you need and it "helps."...Happy New Year and thanks for staying in touch!
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Old 12-26-2013, 09:42 AM
 
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MSR, I am so happy for you that you had a visitor travel 200 miles. Love is so special and so strong, he must have felt the love Crick and you had for one another.

I am sorry to hear you are not feeling well these days. Please keep us posted on the surgery date and the details if you don't mind?

Hugs to you MSR!!
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Old 12-27-2013, 09:53 PM
 
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MSR, I am so happy for you that you had a visitor travel 200 miles. Love is so special and so strong, he must have felt the love Crick and you had for one another.

I am sorry to hear you are not feeling well these days. Please keep us posted on the surgery date and the details if you don't mind?

Hugs to you MSR!!
Thanks Smilin',

I have to first have a neurosurgeon agree to see me and then examine to see what options I have. I have very unusual factors that should make me a "reportable case," as the journals call us. I'll keep others as updated as I know.

It's been a brutal week physically.

But some other cool things happened about Crick. Not ready to write/talk about it. Maybe someday.

I agree, having the surgeon come here was a big deal. I appreciated his kindness.

Thanks for all of your caring!

MSR
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