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View Poll Results: Is it weird/disturbing not to bawl when a close relative dies?
Yes, it kinda means you didn't love them 3 2.33%
No, people process loss in their own way 126 97.67%
Voters: 129. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 10-26-2015, 01:28 AM
 
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I think most of us do!!
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Old 10-26-2015, 05:23 AM
 
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I've never been a person to cry much either. It isn't that I don't feel sad, the tears just don't come.

I cry more at happy events than sad ones. Budweiser ads often fill my eyes full of tears.
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Old 10-26-2015, 07:55 AM
 
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Cry if you need to cry. I have cried at some funerals, and not at others. And not because I didn't care for the ones I did not cry for, but for any number of reasons. The funeral that had me crying the most was not even a family member or someone close to me, but the words people said at the funeral really touched me, and I lost it. I'm sure people thought I was wackadoodle since I wasn't particularly close to the family. Conversely, I hardly cried at all at my grandmother's funeral, and she was the one person in my family I was closest to.
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Old 12-23-2015, 10:30 PM
 
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I don't understand what's wrong with me? I had two family members died and I didn't cried at either of them both... The rest of my family were all in tears and sobbing.. But not me I was just there sitting looking at all of them... Don't get me wrong I did felt sorry for them... But I have to ask myself why cry when someone passes away, when you can celebrate their lives by remembering them in their most happiest days of thier lives? I guess I am more spiritual in that sense... Why grief a loss when you know that they are finally resting in peace and don't have to suffer in this world... They will always be in my heart and I will miss not seeing them but that's the natural way of life. We are born, we live our lives to the fullest we learn our life lesson and then we past. Am I a terrible person by thinking this way?
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Old 12-24-2015, 07:16 AM
 
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Well when you see how crappy the world is now,sometimes you can rejoice when they are SET FREE and dont have to suffer here anymore!!! (Thats 1 way to look @ it)
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Old 12-24-2015, 05:53 PM
 
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It surely depends on how close you were emotionally to the deceased, and even then there are those that feel deeply but can't cry. I am Not one of them however, and have wept many times at my recent bereavement. When my premature babies were ( 15 months apart) in incubators I cried constantly and when they died later only for a while...i had done all my crying while they lived and felt drained.

We are all different but I do question the emotional and mental make up of those that claim a hard heart that feels nothing at the passing of another human being whether close or distant.
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Old 01-25-2016, 11:59 AM
 
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To cry or not is for the moment.
There have been times when I was in such shock, or so full of adrenaline that there was no crying. The crying in those cases came later.

There have been times when I bawled like a baby, straight away, completely shattered.

That said, we all "Cry" in different ways. Because we have love and emotion we experience physically the loss of another. How that manifests itself is as various as the loves that the relationship generated.

The body will not last. Only the soul is forever.
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