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View Poll Results: Is it weird/disturbing not to bawl when a close relative dies?
Yes, it kinda means you didn't love them 3 2.33%
No, people process loss in their own way 126 97.67%
Voters: 129. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 12-13-2013, 10:02 PM
 
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I remember when my grandma died I didn't cry at all, and was very composed at the funeral. Honestly I just felt more bored, and sad for my mom and everyone else who was crying, more than anything. I actually felt a little bit annoyed at all the sobbing, honestly, though I felt bad that I felt that way. It sort of bothered me, I almost wondered if I was a sociopath or something and incapable of feeling deep connections with people, but now that I think about it I think I just processed it differently from most of the other people in my family. My brother didn't cry at the funeral either, though he did afterwards and when he heard about her passing. My grandma lived a great life and her mind was starting to go. Of course I wish she could live forever, and I do miss her and dream she's still with us sometimes, but yeah.

I definitely think I'll cry whenever my parents go though. Hopefully it's not for a long, long long time.
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Old 12-14-2013, 12:37 AM
 
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Why would you make this question a poll? That seems a little disconcerting since it's a fairly personal topic...
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Old 12-15-2013, 09:09 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I guess that they were just wondering.

I don't usually cry at wakes or funerals. I cry when the mood strikes me. It is usually late in the evening and I am by myself.
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Old 12-16-2013, 01:01 AM
 
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Why would you make this question a poll? That seems a little disconcerting since it's a fairly personal topic...
"not to bawl" was a nice touch.
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Old 12-16-2013, 04:40 AM
 
Location: Canada
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I always thought it weird that I don't cry at funerals either. Some people pour tears. I have no idea why I don't because some of them were family members. Crying and sometimes outright sobbing hits me later usually when I'm alone or a song reminds me of them.
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Old 12-26-2013, 05:23 AM
 
Location: Chi-City
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What the above poster said. My aunt died just last month and my dad went to her funeral. I asked him if he cried and he said! I didn't neither but my cousin cried a lot just pouring tears. I just see it as she lived a good life and it was time for her to go.
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Old 12-26-2013, 06:41 AM
 
Location: Area 51.5
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It depends on who died. When my mother died, I lost it. When my father died, I slightly leaned on a nephew and quietly cried for just a moment. Oddly, I was much closer to my father than to my mother.

My sister, on the other hand, carries on like a complete idiot. It doesn't matter who has died. She is all about show and making a fool of herself. She runs to the casket, falls on it, .....you get the picture.
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Old 12-26-2013, 06:45 AM
 
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Everyone handles their sorrow and differently which is usally a very personal thing.
Not everyone is compelled to display their emotions for all to see.
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Old 12-26-2013, 07:00 AM
 
Location: Grand Rapids, Michigan
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From the few funerals that I've been to I don't remember a whole lot of bawling, just some sobbing, and a lot of "hey remember when...." type of stories.
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Old 12-27-2013, 10:34 PM
 
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I cry when I hear of children dying. That's it. I shed no tears when each of my parent's expectantly died within about a year of one another, nor for my grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. In fact, I believe the last time I cried because of a close death was for a beloved pet who had showed me unconditional love.

Is there something wrong with me?
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