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Old 06-05-2015, 05:48 PM
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband and the loss of your kids' Dad. I agree with the posters that say you have to do what's best for you. Everybody grieves differently and it's important that you take the time that YOU need to grieve your husband properly. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself how ever long it takes.

Being that you are so open with your daughter, explain what your heart is feeling and you're just not ready yet. Your husband sounds like he was a great Dad and your kids were blessed to have him for the time they did. Some kids aren't that lucky. I understand how she probably misses her Dad and their relationship so much. Even when you are ready to date, there's no guarantee that the new man will measure up anywhere near to the relationship she had with her Dad.

I wish much healing for you and your family.
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Old 06-06-2015, 05:24 PM
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Since when do 12-year-old kids get to determine their parents' sex life? Do what you want, at your own speed. Maybe it's an opportunity to explain to your daughter that when you truly love someone, there's no rush to replace them, as if the loved one was a pet that got run over. It's not a matter of what your daughter "deserves."

On the other hand, yes, it's sweet - and far better than the other extreme, where the parent wants to re-marry and the child fights it all the way.
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Old 06-06-2015, 11:31 PM
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Originally Posted by Electrician4you View Post
If you're not ready you're not ready. Forcing it is worse.
I agree, forcing it is worse and it's not fair to the other person.
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