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Old 04-13-2014, 02:46 AM
 
Location: Auckland, New Zealand
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On the 14th January 2014 my son Denver took his life. I had seen him just less than three weeks before when we went camping. He was at his best really as the photo shows. He was travelling back up to Auckland where his family live. Something happened to him which overpowered him and he took his life. He was an Aspie and unfortunately suffered from anxiety and depression. He had said that he has this 'monster' inside of him which he has to fight to keep down. On this night when he had found a place to sleep in his car, this 'monster' rose up in him and 'overpowered' him.

This is the last memory I have of him from that camp. I hope he knew how much I loved him.

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Old 04-13-2014, 03:05 AM
 
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Sorry for your loss. I can't say I know exactly what was going through his mind but whatever it was must have been too overwhelming to bear. Did he ever talk to you in depth about exactly what he was experiancing or did he keep most of it to himself?
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Old 04-13-2014, 03:06 AM
 
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Very sad news, I cant even begin to imagine the grief a parent must go through at the death of a child. Stay strong for Denvers sake,and cherish the loving times you had together .
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Old 04-13-2014, 04:09 AM
 
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I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you very much for sharing the photo. My thoughts and prayers go to you and your family. Lots of hugs and love to you.
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Old 04-13-2014, 05:15 AM
 
Location: Dallas
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So very sorry for your heartbreaking loss. I hope you are getting some help and support in dealing with your grief.
Sending you thoughts of peace and strength.
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Old 04-13-2014, 06:09 AM
 
Location: On the East Coast
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Sorry for your loss. What a great looking guy he was. I am sorry he was in so much pain that he felt he had to do what he did to find peace. Treasure the good times and hold on to the fact that you will see him again when the time comes. God Bless.
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Old 04-13-2014, 07:27 AM
 
Location: Ponderay, Idaho
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss and the grief it has caused. It is hard to imagine what he must have been going through. I am sure he knew how much you loved him.

Hang on to the memories of the good times and stay strong. My thoughts and prayers to you.


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Old 04-13-2014, 08:15 AM
 
Location: Greenville, SC
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I am so sorry for your loss. There are no adequate words. Rest assured, that I am sure he knew how much you loved him.
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Old 04-13-2014, 08:16 AM
 
Location: Up North in God's Country
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303Guy, I am so very sorry to hear about your son. What a handsome young man he was! He looked so happy in that photo. Mental illness is a terrible thing to deal with. There are so many people who have to deal with it...and there are so many more who need to be dealing with it, but are not. Even those who are under treatment are still at risk.

I like your son's analogy that there was a monster in him, which roars its head at times. So true. It's too bad he wasn't around others at that time. Suicide is a permanent solution to a controllable problem. Unfortunately, mental illness doesn't get the attention that it should get from researchers and doctors.

I'll keep your son and your entire family in my thoughts and prayers. Just take it one day at a time right now. Bless you.
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Old 04-13-2014, 08:23 AM
 
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I'm sorry for your loss.
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