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Old 07-11-2014, 09:18 PM
 
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Thanks everyone...

I must be feeling a lot better than when I posted because I am seeing all the opportunities
ahead as exciting now...

I have a few trips lined up, some projects planned, a church I am visiting,
considering online dating to find some men to attend activities with,
looking into some volunteer things and also considering working
PRN (as needed) so that I can have a flexible schedule..
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Old 07-12-2014, 12:13 AM
 
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About 4 years ago I was living with my 2 high school boys & husband and my daughter, son in law & grandson were over 3 to 4 times a week..I was completely content to run my home & care for my family.
Cooking every night was wonderful.. My son's friends were over all the time & I loved that...
We had an old large farm house & 3 acres and my entire life revolved around family..

Fast forward 4 years..

2 boys are across the country, husband died, daughter is divorcing and is moving 5 hours away with my grandson..One other daughter is in Ca but she has been there 15 years..

I downsized and moved and now the busyness of repairs to old house , listing, selling, buying & moving
is over..I am settled in a small townhouse that is easy to care for..

I just found out about my daughters divorce and move and I feel like I am losing her, son in law & grandson. I know I will still see them but not every few days like I have. I have been very involved in my grandson's life up until now..

So I am lost about what to do that will give me purpose..I don't have to work but wonder if that would help
fill my time..If I work it will make it harder to visit the kids all over the country.
All the hobbies that seemed fun before seem pointless right now because I am depressed and also because they are not enough to give me purpose..They are just interesting time passers if that makes sense..

Has anyone else had their family disappear this fast..My life seems 100% different than a few years ago and I miss my old life..My townhome feels like a vacation rental and not in a good way.. I want to go home !!!

First of all, it really hurts to lose a loved one; I think you should seek out grief counseling, preferably group therapy. It can be really difficult to lose someone you love, especially if you don't have support from experienced friends. I would advise that you start there.

Also, it might help to get involved in some kind of enjoyable activity. Take a part-time job, or work as a volunteer doing something you love. Get to know like-minded people, and try to start a new life. You can also stay in contact with the people you know.
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Old 07-12-2014, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Thanks everyone...

I must be feeling a lot better than when I posted because I am seeing all the opportunities
ahead as exciting now...

I have a few trips lined up, some projects planned, a church I am visiting,
considering online dating to find some men to attend activities with,
looking into some volunteer things and also considering working
PRN (as needed) so that I can have a flexible schedule..
I'm glad you're feeling better. Good luck with everything.
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