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Old 08-24-2014, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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That's good to hear, CA. Is this the friend whose dog just died and had a heart attack?
Tami...Thanks for your interest. My friend lost his dog recently and he had a mild stroke and he has other health problems...It's hard for him to walk so I help him "get around."...He dealt with his sadness over losing his dog. (More than I expected.) But now, he seems to be in a "funk" a lot...I know it's hard for him to cope with his lack of mobility. It's turning him into a "grumpy old man" at times...I have tons of empathy and compassion for him. And, I usually have a lot of patience. But, we're going to have to "talk" soon if he stays in a "funk." Eventually, he's going to have to "make peace" with his current situation. (Even though it's hard.)...My friend doesn't have any family members in the area and he's used to being independent. Sorry to go on and on!
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Old 08-24-2014, 01:23 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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Tami...Thanks for your interest. My friend lost his dog recently and he had a mild stroke and he has other health problems...It's hard for him to walk so I help him "get around."...He dealt with his sadness over losing his dog. (More than I expected.) But now, he seems to be in a "funk" a lot...I know it's hard for him to cope with his lack of mobility. It's turning him into a "grumpy old man" at times...I have tons of empathy and compassion for him. And, I usually have a lot of patience. But, we're going to have to "talk" soon if he stays in a "funk." Eventually, he's going to have to "make peace" with his current situation. (Even though it's hard.)...My friend doesn't have any family members in the area and he's used to being independent. Sorry to go on and on!
No probs, CA. I figured it was him. I can imagine why he's turning grumpy but that's no excuse to be that way with someone who only is trying to help. We hurt the ones we love though. Or at least like. Good luck with your talk. Is he the dude that used to drive you crazy with having to drive him around?? Or was that another gentleman?
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Old 08-24-2014, 02:02 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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No probs, CA. I figured it was him. I can imagine why he's turning grumpy but that's no excuse to be that way with someone who only is trying to help. We hurt the ones we love though. Or at least like. Good luck with your talk. Is he the dude that used to drive you crazy with having to drive him around?? Or was that another gentleman?
Tami...I helped my friend out last year when he had some medical problems and earlier this year too. (Good memory!)...This situation is foreign to me because I'm used to being with my family. We had a way of pulling each other out of "funks." (If they lasted too long.)...We'd say: "So and so is definitely playing 'suffering martyr' today!" And the pouting would stop!...Talking was okay. Just not prolonged pouting. Or sulking! (With no consideration for anyone else.)..I even got called "suffering martyr" a couple of times myself!.. We always said it in a playful way at first...No one got attacked. It was just a "wake-up call." Helping each other become more aware...But, I'm not with my family anymore.
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Old 08-24-2014, 03:34 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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Tami...I helped my friend out last year when he had some medical problems and earlier this year too. (Good memory!)...This situation is foreign to me because I'm used to being with my family. We had a way of pulling each other out of "funks." (If they lasted too long.)...We'd say: "So and so is definitely playing 'suffering martyr' today!" And the pouting would stop!...Talking was okay. Just not prolonged pouting. Or sulking! (With no consideration for anyone else.)..I even got called "suffering martyr" a couple of times myself!.. We always said it in a playful way at first...No one got attacked. It was just a "wake-up call." Helping each other become more aware...But, I'm not with my family anymore.
Sounds like a good system you and family had.

LOL, sometimes my memory surprises me! Usually it lets me down now.
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Old 08-24-2014, 08:02 PM
 
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I sure felt angry and frustrated the other day when I took my friend to the ER. The doctor on duty was arrogant and bossy and he treated my friend like a "stupid child."...It brought back memories of some of the doctors my family members encountered when they were sick...Normally, I'm easy-going and soft-spoken but I turn into a "lion" when I run into doctors or nurses who treat patients with disrespect.
I feel so bad that you have met "arrogant and bossy" docs and nurses. I am an RN for 30+ years and would never speak to anyone that way. I guess there are idiots in all professions. Expectations of doctors and nurses are higher than other people, I guess. Just correct these docs and nurses. Tell them that you are not stupid. Let them know that you would like to be spoken to like an educated adult. Believe me they will remember you and what you said.
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Old 08-24-2014, 08:24 PM
 
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I eat and will eat alone. I don't want to see any other people.
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Old 08-28-2014, 02:38 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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I eat and will eat alone. I don't want to see any other people.
Welcome to you too. Come to spread some happiness around??
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