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Old 08-02-2014, 07:18 AM
 
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friends of mine loss their adult unmarried son. Is it appropriate to give money in a card?
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Old 08-02-2014, 12:26 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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yes it is very appropriate and I have had money in a card handed to me at the funeral of my husband so yes it is very much okay .
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Old 08-02-2014, 01:03 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Yes, it is very common (actually it is expected) in my area to give money to the family. Most people use their own condolence card but most funeral homes have blank cards and envelopes or just envelopes available for you to use.

However, it may vary by community or religion. I believe that there was a similar thread a year or two ago that you could check.
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Old 08-05-2014, 08:33 AM
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I haven't researched what the "official" rule is but I think it's appropriate to give money in a card.
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Old 08-05-2014, 10:42 AM
 
Location: Aiken, South Carolina, US of A
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The only funeral I ever gave money to was a relative
who left behind small children, and I knew the wife was struggling.
That is the only time I give money.
Struggling little dependents.
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Old 08-05-2014, 12:57 PM
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The only funeral I ever gave money to was a relative
who left behind small children, and I knew the wife was struggling.
That is the only time I give money.
Struggling little dependents.
Sure, that makes sense. Whenever I hear of a parent dying young, I always hope they had life insurance, for both the surviving spouse and children's sake. If someone wants to give money to surviving relatives in other instances...well, I think that's fine too.
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Old 08-05-2014, 03:19 PM
 
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I've never heard of anyone giving money at a funeral.
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Old 08-05-2014, 04:19 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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I've never heard of anyone giving money at a funeral.
I actually never have either except for here in an old thread.
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Old 08-05-2014, 11:42 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I've never heard of anyone giving money at a funeral.
I've seen it my entire life. While it's a different sacrament, death, like marriage, can cost quite a bit. People often expect to be fed and watered and there are all sorts of fires to be put. All of that costs. Giving money at a funeral helps to defray those costs.
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Old 08-09-2014, 11:44 AM
 
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I think this is highly dependent on culture. For some cultures money/donations are given because it's believed that the bereaved should not be spending (too much) on the funeral costs, etc. Some it's in lieu of flowers, mass cards, etc.
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