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Old 08-26-2014, 12:27 AM
Location: Deep in the heart of Texas
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My friend died suddenly last Friday (on my birthday)

Her wake or viewing of the body is on Wednesday. What does one wear? Should I just wear my regular clothes or does one have to dress up? Do people wear black? When my dad died in Mexico, we didn't dress up. We wore our regular clothes but when they took his body to the chapel the next day we did wear black.
My friend was only 37 and full of life.

She is going to be missed.
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Old 08-26-2014, 07:40 AM
Location: State of Being
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It really depends on the part of the country where you live as to what folks will wear. And there may be a lot of variance even within groups.

Most folks will wear the type of thing they would put on to go to church, but I just attended a wake and funeral and saw men in short sleeve shirts, no tie, no jacket, as well as those in suits, sport coats, tie.

The women had on everything from nice pant suits to dresses or dresses with jackets/shrugs.

The only thing I didn't see was jeans and of course, shorts.

Folks don't seem to adhere much to the "all black" or "somber" dress code of the past anymore.

I am so sorry that you have lost your dear friend. Way too young . . . my condolences.
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Old 08-26-2014, 09:30 AM
Location: South Carolina
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Well I do wear black still to all of our funerals we go too and I do attend the funeral supper afterwards if they have one . It is my understanding that some folks don't do a luncheon or dinner after the funeral but I always go if they do . now as for attire I wear a black dress pearls , and hose and a hat if it is summer . However if it is winter I will wear a warmer version of a dress maybe a black sweater dress , black tights and no hat and a black long coat ...
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Old 08-26-2014, 10:10 AM
Location: Florida
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At my husbands and at one I attended the following week, people came in all sorts of dress.
You know what? I didn't care that some apparently came in whatever they had on that day.
Some of the younger ones, did, indeed have on jeans.
That they came was what mattered.
I wore nice but casual clothes myself.(white slacks with a nice blouse and dressier type sandals.)
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Old 08-26-2014, 12:24 PM
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Wear something business casual type. If you know what your friends favorite color was, maybe wear a shirt/blouse of that color?
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Old 08-26-2014, 02:44 PM
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The thought counts. Wear something you would normally wear to church or a semi-formal occasion.
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Old 08-26-2014, 02:46 PM
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Regular clothes but on the conservative side.

The last Wake/Funeral we went too everyone wore jeans and tshirts because J wanted it that way.
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Old 08-26-2014, 04:36 PM
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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It depends upon where you are. I would wear black or a somber color, unless requested otherwise. You cannot go wrong by following formal decorum. I think in some cultures, mourners wear white.
Anymore, people are clueless about custom and traditions, so they will probably show up looking like they just hopped off the lawnmower. But the showing up is what really matters.
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Old 08-26-2014, 07:07 PM
Location: I am right here.
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I honestly could not tell you about one outfit anyone wore to my husband's wake or funeral. I could tell you who came, though. I wore purple.
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Old 08-26-2014, 09:49 PM
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What I wore to a wake in the 80's was a black suit. All of the men were wearing black and the women were wearing black dresses. It was during winter though so I wasn't concerned about having a heat stroke.
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