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Old 09-17-2014, 11:54 AM
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Dear Cynwldkat, I am so very sorry for your loss. Although I still have my dear DH, I come on the grief boards occasionally, because as Curmudgeon says, we all will have to walk this road eventually. All of you who have done it or are doing it now are my heroes. I hope to have the wherewithal and the grace to do what you do if I were to die last. Hugs to you all.
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Old 09-17-2014, 12:02 PM
Location: Sudcaroland
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I'm here too dear Cyn. I may not post vey often, but I'm still around!
Big hugs.
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Old 09-17-2014, 12:09 PM
Location: SWFL
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Cyn, I had read a little of your caregiving thread and knew your hubby was dying of ALS. I am so sorry he has passed but take comfort that he really is better off and so now are you. This is a wonderful place to share the emotions you are going through. So many wonderful people here.

May God watch over you on your new journey.

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Old 09-17-2014, 12:50 PM
Location: State of Being
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Thinking of you, Cyn. It has been a long journey for you and your husband. I am so sorry to hear of his passing.

I hope the journey ahead will be a time of peace and new beginnings. ((((hugs))))
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Old 09-17-2014, 04:22 PM
Location: Southern, NJ
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Cyn, your words and thoughts were eloquently spoken & conveys the dignity you have possessed throughout your ordeal. Your online support system & friendships are real because of way you
have always treated others. It is time to take care of yourself, as Elston said, one day at a time, & we will be walking beside you. kelsie
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Old 09-17-2014, 04:23 PM
Location: Alexandria, VA
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I'm so sorry, all I can say is take care of yourself - it will be a process that nobody can predict (yourself included) - one day at a time is all we can do.
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Old 09-17-2014, 05:24 PM
Location: In a house
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Yes, one day at a time............................
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Old 09-17-2014, 06:42 PM
Location: The beautiful Garden State
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Originally Posted by cynwldkat View Post
To my dearest angels, friends and other caregivers from my former thread in the caregivers thread. It is time for me to move on from that thread as I am no longer a caregiver...sigh... Now I am trying to pick up the pieces and facing those emotions of grief. As I wake up each day I pray it will be easier but I suppose I am asking for to much to soon. Each day seems harder as I wander through my home with only my critters to talk to. Through the caregivers thread I have met the most caring loving people anyone could imagine. It has given me so much more faith in the human race. I honestly do not think I could have made it through this without their constant support and love. I would not be able to recognize them if I saw them on the street but I know their hearts! So now I will walk this new road and try to find myself. I so pray my friends will continue to walk with me. I also hope this thread will help others who may not wish to post but just read this thread and will get some strength and direction from this thread. Sometimes a person just needs to see they are not alone in their situation and it helps. We help each other!


It's so hard. My mom died this year and I'm still so sad but I keep it mostly to myself.

Allow yourself to grieve properly. So many people act is if there is a timeline for grief. They get uncomfortable if you grieve for too long. Pets can really help. They are so understanding.

The weird thing is that it is the "little things" that make me saddest -- not the holidays, or birthdays, but food the person liked, a game that they played, or a song that they loved -- but one day they will be cherished memories.

I promise you though that it will get better. You will always miss him, but one day you will be able to think of him and smile instead of cry.
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Old 09-17-2014, 07:00 PM
Location: Tucson for awhile longer
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My deepest sympathy for your loss. In your time of caring for your beloved husband, I'm glad you were able to get some support from the people on our Caregivers thread. You deserved it. You will continue to be in my thoughts.
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Old 09-17-2014, 08:01 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
The fog you speak of is so normal but can be so frustrating. Please don't be hard on yourself if you're not up to speed. Sounds like you're taking it step by step....Praying for a light unto your path...
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