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Old 10-17-2014, 01:34 PM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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What a confusing title. Do you put the food in the coffin? Or leave it along side the tomb like the ancient Egyptians.
If people are actually going to start leaving food in the cemeteries, I'm going to start hanging out there for snack purposes.
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Old 10-17-2014, 02:04 PM
 
Location: Tampa bay
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What a confusing title. Do you put the food in the coffin? Or leave it along side the tomb like the ancient Egyptians.
made ya look I guess
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Old 10-17-2014, 02:12 PM
 
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when my dad died when I was young my neighbor a few doors up who opens a delli sent a whole spread without asking. Thank god he did not send flowers and a card I had enough of that and no food
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Old 10-17-2014, 03:00 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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made ya look I guess
Well yes. Yes, it did, lol. I was wondering what altar or gravesite catered, as it were, to having food as part of the cemetery decor.

Jokes aside . . . here is one of the popular recipes "down South" where I live . . . and yes, we do still send food to the relatives who are gathered for the funeral.

These are actually referred to as "funeral sandwiches" (or funeral sammiches, lol).

Funeral Sandwiches: Nothing To Mourn About Here! - Clever Housewife
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Old 10-17-2014, 03:09 PM
 
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Well yes. Yes, it did, lol. I was wondering what altar or gravesite catered, as it were, to having food as part of the cemetery decor.

Jokes aside . . . here is one of the popular recipes "down South" where I live . . . and yes, we do still send food to the relatives who are gathered for the funeral.

These are actually referred to as "funeral sandwiches" (or funeral sammiches, lol).

Funeral Sandwiches: Nothing To Mourn About Here! - Clever Housewife
Oh sure, ham.

Why am I not surprised?

They look luscious.

The nice thing about sandwiches or bars is that I've noticed in our own family people think they don't feel hungry while they are grieving. But if you have "carry around" food available people will help themselves if they see it available.

But I can understand a big Italian family sitting down to eat a feast. Isn't food related to nearly everything in an Italian family?

Feeding people is a good way to say, "We are glad you are still here and want you to stick around a few more years."
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Old 10-17-2014, 05:33 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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I know we still do and our church does as well . We were raised as kids to know this is the thing you do after a loved one dies or a neighbor dies . I always try and send a deli plate with cold cuts , veggies and bread and some mayo and mustard . Then I make a vase of flowers from my garden and a card .
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Old 10-17-2014, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Tijuana Exurbs
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Not that a post on City Data can change a long established custom, but if you know someone who has a relative that is ill and/or dying, particularly at home, it is actually a far greater benefit to send over food in the days before death. Those are the days when the time to cook is in shortest supply, and giving thought to food is the most difficult.

So if you find yourself knowing about a situation like that, think about providing food for a family that is keeping a death vigil.
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Old 10-17-2014, 06:12 PM
 
Location: Tampa bay
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Not that a post on City Data can change a long established custom, but if you know someone who has a relative that is ill and/or dying, particularly at home, it is actually a far greater benefit to send over food in the days before death. Those are the days when the time to cook is in shortest supply, and giving thought to food is the most difficult.

So if you find yourself knowing about a situation like that, think about providing food for a family that is keeping a death vigil.
That is very true! These are most stressful times.
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Old 10-17-2014, 06:25 PM
 
Location: Democratic Peoples Republic of Redneckistan
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Yes,we do in my area still....I think it's a part of respecting the family and we'll do it as long as we can
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Old 10-17-2014, 07:49 PM
 
Location: Philaburbia
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It did get funny though as the wake approached someone asked us what we needed and we were just joking as we said wine and chocolate. (We were getting punchy) and so many people left wine and bags of M&M's.
I love it! Those are good people.

When my spouse died, the woman next door came over with two bottles of wine, a bottle of raspberry vodka, and a bottle of coconut rum. My other neighbors gave us deli trays, rolls, and salads. I was so incredibly grateful.

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Not that a post on City Data can change a long established custom, but if you know someone who has a relative that is ill and/or dying, particularly at home, it is actually a far greater benefit to send over food in the days before death.
That's good too - you don't feel like cooking, but you have to eat something. Anything that can be heated up in the oven or in the microwave is so helpful.
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