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Old 02-23-2016, 07:21 AM
Location: In a house
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Had to laugh....my cats aren't much help with the house cleaning either! But don't know what I'd do without my pets!
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Old 02-23-2016, 09:37 AM
Location: Columbia SC
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Originally Posted by SunGrins View Post
Calvert --- let me know how those Merry Maids work out. I'm at the point of throwing in the towel on housekeeping after eight years alone....except for the cat who does not do his share. Even now it is a struggle to get through some days but hang in for the long haul -- things will get better. I miss the conversation most and shared perspective of a wonderful woman I spent half my life with. Regarding human contact, it is funny how people will 'chat me up' in the grocery checkout line or almost anywhere...and I've learned to do the same.
My mantra since my wife's death (3 months now) has been to keep busy doing things so I knocked the maid service off and now do it myself. I do not do it all at once but an hour or two every few days seems to work. Just one more think to keep me busy.
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Old 02-24-2016, 09:03 AM
Location: God's Country
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My late wife always had cats here. When we first came to this valley, a mama cat left two of her babies at the front door: an orange kitten and a white one, huddled together to keep warm. The orange one with a gorgeous face we named "Annie." The white one with a pretty coat we named "Maxine." "Maxine" then grew two testicles so we changed the name to "Max." Annie lived 19 years. Had a dozen or so other strays too.

Right now several barn cats come around trying to adopt me but it ain't gonna happen. I just hope that some ol' mama cat doesn't drop off some of her children as happened 40 years ago.
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Old 03-02-2016, 03:07 AM
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Dear Calvert,
So sorry for your loss.
I would be really, really grateful to the person, who would pray for my departure if I was in a state in which your wife was. I won't say "don't feel guilty" only because it's useless, I feel my guilt for not doing enough for my dad, and I know it won't ever get away, but... Hold on here. Do things you were going to do together if things weren't that grim. Hold on to good memories, and also remember, that we live until those who loved us are alive. So, while you're still here, your wife is here, too.
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Old 03-02-2016, 12:03 PM
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Im so sorry for your loss Calvert!!

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