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Old 03-30-2018, 11:26 AM
 
Location: Denver CO
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Mystery solved! I drove Dad up there today to visit...he pointed out the many deer tracks in the soil. I don't mind that the deer are eating the flowers; Mom would love that. (However, I will be more frugal with my flower purchases, knowing they will be consumed in the dark of night!)
I'm sorry for your loss, but this made me smile, I hope it did for you too, to know that Mom's flowers helped make the deer happy.
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Old 03-30-2018, 02:34 PM
 
Location: Tulare County, Ca
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One of our cemeteries has a sign that says: "Stealing flowers is a crime in this world and the next."
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Old 03-30-2018, 03:36 PM
 
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It makes me feel a little better to drop roses on a friend's casket after it is lowered into the ground, like closure or something.
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Old 03-30-2018, 04:03 PM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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We buried my mother January 8 at Florida National Cemetery (for veterans and their spouses). We were told there are no graveside services here due to the large number of funerals held daily (there were 54 on our day). The cemetery has 7-8 committal service shelters situated throughout; this is where the "graveside" services are held, then your loved one's casket is taken somewhere on the property until the daily burials take place later in the day.

The funeral director left the casket spray and two large baskets of flowers at Mom's grave. When I returned to the grave site for the first time 2 days later, all of the flowers -- every last one of them -- had been cut. Is this standard practice by the cemetery itself, or is this kind of theft as commonplace as it is in private cemeteries? Anyone have experience to share?

No experiences but sorry this happened to you.


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Old 03-31-2018, 08:37 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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It makes me feel a little better to drop roses on a friend's casket after it is lowered into the ground, like closure or something.
In many places the actual burial is after everyone leaves.
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Old 03-31-2018, 12:44 PM
 
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I know. At least the deer can't eat them.
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Old 04-02-2018, 07:22 AM
 
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One of our cemeteries has a sign that says: "Stealing flowers is a crime in this world and the next."
I figured there would be a sign that read "Ashes To Ashes, dust to dust the flowers are for the dead, not for us."
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Old 04-04-2018, 01:49 PM
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Location: Cary, NC
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There is no allowing of flowers either real or fake to be left at National Cemeteries. My father, mother and husband are all buried at the one on Cape Cod and I learned not to waste my money.
Ours permits both, with stipulations. Perhaps each National Cemetery sets its own policies? "Fresh cut flowers may be placed on graves at any time."
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Old 04-04-2018, 01:50 PM
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Location: Cary, NC
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I'm sorry for your loss, but this made me smile, I hope it did for you too, to know that Mom's flowers helped make the deer happy.
Thank you, it still makes me happy. My dad and I laugh about "feeding the deer" while picking out our bouquets.
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Old 04-04-2018, 11:29 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I figured there would be a sign that read "Ashes To Ashes, dust to dust the flowers are for the dead, not for us."
My mother told me that if I wanted to give her flowers, that I should do it when she was alive and could enjoy them.

Cemetery rules vary. Many pick up anything that will be in the way of the maintenance crew.
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