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I am not only asking about your plot, burial or cremation, but music, viewing, reception, in a funeral home? Or elsewhere? Do you want a very somber occasion? Or more of a celebration of life?
My wife does not like to discuss this issue. She finds it morbid. I am fascinated by the ways that people chose to make their last statement in life and to what degree they want to be involved.
My husband and I both want cremation...my mother was cremated and we had
a memorial service about a year later when we could get together. It worked out
well that way, less stress. Her service was low key, at her home, just family.
Location: West of the Catalinas East of the Tortolitas
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As a widow, with grown kids and grandkids who are teens, my family knows (and it's in my trust and will) I want to be cremated and my ashes scattered half on our land in the Colorado mountains and half in the channel between Maui and the Big Island off Kaupo just past Lindbergh's grave. No service, no obituary, nothing. My husband wanted the same thing. We've scattered his ashes in Colorado, but will wait until I die and the kids/grands can scatter both of us at the same time.
My lovely bride and I, both 70ish, will both be cremated, as will our two fur children, and my youngest grandson has accepted the responsibility of scattering our ashes (all 4 of us) together off the Kau coast of the Big Island of Hawaii. No services of any type, since our families (hers and mine) all live back on the mainland.
But you can all play a little Rolling Stones or Joe Cocker music in my memory whenever you get the chance....
My wife and I made plans to donate our bodies to the local School of Medicine.
They remove the remains within 24 hours. They have a yearly Memorial Service. They also have a small Memorial Garden where one can visit, sit, think, pray, etc.
My wife died a few months back and all went smooth.
My husband and I bought cremation plans from the Neptune society. It worked just as it was supposed to when he died. Hopefully, it will work as smoothly when I need it. As for the actual memorial service, I think that is actually for the family that remains, not for the one who has died. That person is no longer at the point of caring what songs are sung. So I will leave it to my family to decide about a memorial. They can make it be however they feel best about it.
I will be cremated and a small amount of someone else's will be mixed with mine. The remains will be scattered along the shore of a large, and usually deserted, beach on our west coast by a friend and his wife. There will be three short recitations taking less than a minute or so.
Yes, it was very quick and easy, no funeral, no memorial, no flowers, cards, plants, etc etc. we are both being cremated and if/when someone claims our ashes they can do what they want with them.
I am not only asking about your plot, burial or cremation, but music, viewing, reception, in a funeral home? Or elsewhere? Do you want a very somber occasion? Or more of a celebration of life?
My wife does not like to discuss this issue. She finds it morbid. I am fascinated by the ways that people chose to make their last statement in life and to what degree they want to be involved.
As a Pagan I want to be cremated & scattered to over the mountains. I want those who I leave behind to celebrate my life. I want everyone dancing & singing & remember when the stupid crap we all did together. I know my wife wants to keep some of my ashes which is fine. My choice is to have my body burned at home but I'm not sure how to work that out exactly. I've been doing the research on it & for the most part it's illegal, only because their is no money to be made off of it. Anyway I don't want a sad event I want everyone drinking & carrying on.
Did not think and no wishes either. I am thankful for this moment.
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