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Old 02-28-2016, 04:03 AM
 
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So what makes me so sad tonight? Maybe because it will finally be real. There are so many times I've denied reality because it's not tangible. But once I have his ashes it will be real. I miss my boy so much.
I am so sorry...... I know I cant possibly know what your going thru but somehow I do!!!!

Lets think good thoughts that your boy is with you still,looking down on you,etc

God bless you
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Old 02-28-2016, 05:44 AM
 
Location: The Netherlands
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Life is never easy when we have to say good bye for the loved ones as well got to decide let them go with knowing they wont return to their bodies. Your pain well known my aunt had to let his son go who was in a coma and who did not return. your son will be in your heart as always. My prayers with you and your family. Be strong! Big hug!!!!
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Old 02-28-2016, 05:52 AM
 
Location: Lake Grove
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I'm very sorry. I wish you peace.
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:56 AM
 
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I'm so very sorry for the loss of your boy. I know your pain all too well. We're not supposed to have our children die before us. There are some of the most compassionate people on this board to help you along your journey. My heart goes out to you. If you ever need an ear, I'm here...
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Old 02-28-2016, 03:32 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Thank, Cam. It's just been just over a month, he died January 11th but the Coroner didn't release his body until the 21st. Then, every time I planned to go to the city, the weather turned ugly.

So it's still pretty fresh.

Now I have to work with my family on the memorial. We have decided on June. Now I'm trying to decide what to do with the ashes. I do want a small urn for my house, but he loved the family farm so much I want some of them there.

Do I put them in an urn for the farm or do I scatter them. Thankfully I have time to make these decisions.

Tomorrow I plan on going to the courthouse to get his death certificate. I also have to order a duplicate title for the motorcycle we owned together. I can't find it & I'm not going to waste any more time looking for it.

A family friend is going to get it up to speed & then help me sell it. It's been sitting in the pole barn since he was burned, 11 years ago. He would never let me sell.it because it was his dream bike & he was certain he could find a way to construct something so he could ride it again. His hands were burned very badly & he had to use special equipment to do anything.

I went along with that as it gave him joy and purpose, which he badly needed.
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Old 02-28-2016, 05:30 PM
 
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I just hurt for you.... It's almost six years and I still have my son's ashes. I didn't do what I said I was going to do at the time and I'm still not sure what I'll do. Your mind is probably in a whirlwind trying to get things done.

I'm glad that you have someone helping you because you need a few strong, loving, take charge support people around you through this. I was blessed with my family.

I'm sorry that he was burned and his and your life must have been difficult. I think it's great that you're going to get his dream bike up to speed. I'm sure he'll be smiling down on you and that should also give you comfort.

Somewhere on the net sells wind chimes that you can put some of his ashes in and I keep saying I'm going to do that because I like wind chimes. You do have time and it's your grief, so allow yourself to grieve him on your terms.

Please take care of yourself during this difficult time.
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Old 02-28-2016, 05:56 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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Thank, Cam. It's just been just over a month, he died January 11th but the Coroner didn't release his body until the 21st. Then, every time I planned to go to the city, the weather turned ugly.

So it's still pretty fresh.

Now I have to work with my family on the memorial. We have decided on June. Now I'm trying to decide what to do with the ashes. I do want a small urn for my house, but he loved the family farm so much I want some of them there.

Do I put them in an urn for the farm or do I scatter them. Thankfully I have time to make these decisions.

Tomorrow I plan on going to the courthouse to get his death certificate. I also have to order a duplicate title for the motorcycle we owned together. I can't find it & I'm not going to waste any more time looking for it.

A family friend is going to get it up to speed & then help me sell it. It's been sitting in the pole barn since he was burned, 11 years ago. He would never let me sell.it because it was his dream bike & he was certain he could find a way to construct something so he could ride it again. His hands were burned very badly & he had to use special equipment to do anything.

I went along with that as it gave him joy and purpose, which he badly needed.

Sending (((((hugs)))))) to you meo.

Where you put his ashes is a very personal decision and one that will always be important to you. If you have not already thought of it, I have heard of people planting a tree and putting their loved one's ashes in the soil around the tree. It would be a place you could visit and talk to him in privacy. Maybe at the farm.

It's just a thought that I heard about and it appealed to me. Again, where you put his ashes is your own personal decision.

Sending my thoughts and caring love to you, my friend.
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Old 02-28-2016, 09:31 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Thank you NYGAL. I have time and by June I should have been able to make a decision. I like the wind chime idea. It would remind me of the way he told me he felt when riding his bike, being one with the wind & the road.
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Old 02-29-2016, 03:48 AM
 
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I think a Wind chime would be super
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