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Old 03-23-2016, 12:06 AM
 
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Two months is NOTHING. Be kind to yourself. At two months I don't even think it had hit me yet. Someone suggesting talking to him - I think that is good advice. Our loved ones do hear us. That energy does not go away.
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Old 03-23-2016, 12:55 AM
 
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I think journaling is good, but I have also seen suggestions to write a long, heartfelt letter to your son. If you feel that some things were left unsaid, say them in the letter. It helps to get the words out there. It clarifies your thoughts, and I know that one's thoughts are pretty scrambled during the early months of grief. As others have said, try to get some sleep, eat well, take walks, and if you can, talk to a sympathetic friend or even a grief counselor. This is a very hard thing to survive, but many have done it. That's why its good to talk to someone who has also lost a child - it helps to know you are not alone, and it helps you to look ahead and believe that you can still live.
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Old 03-23-2016, 02:24 AM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Those are both very good ideas. I do find myself talking to him. As for journalizing - I'm not ready yet. I hope someday to get back to writing down thoughts but at the moment I am blocked.

I do sing him songs I've made up. That helps.
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Old 03-23-2016, 02:36 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles>Little Rock>Houston>Little Rock
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I find that it gets a little easier day by day.
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Old 03-23-2016, 09:48 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Thank you, Maggie. Just as those who don't know what to say, neither do I. It's going to take time for me to think of him without crying, but I already find that there are times I remember him with humor and love. He could be quite the comedian at times. I remember those times fondly.

I'm having a lot of dreams about him. Good dreams. That helps too.
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Old 03-23-2016, 09:57 PM
 
Location: Ft. Myers
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I can not even begin to imagine how you must feel, but, being a Dad myself, I certainly understand your pain.

I am a firm believer that our loved ones never really leave us, they just change forms, and you will sense him being with you many times.

Those are the only words I can offer, but just know we care.

Don
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Old 03-24-2016, 05:59 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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I can not even begin to imagine how you must feel, but, being a Dad myself, I certainly understand your pain.

I am a firm believer that our loved ones never really leave us, they just change forms, and you will sense him being with you many times.

Those are the only words I can offer, but just know we care.

Don
Thank you, Don. I've heard that but have not felt him yet. I hope it does happen.
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Old 03-25-2016, 01:36 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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This is no comfort I know but in my studies and my work I know life never ends. He's still there and he still loves you.
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Old 03-25-2016, 01:48 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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I am so sorry for your loss. My sister lost her son at 21, so I kind of understand the enormous pain that you feel. I will think of you often today and will be sending prayers of peace your way.
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Old 03-25-2016, 03:37 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Thanks to all of you once again. The kind words do help.
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