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Old 03-24-2016, 08:53 AM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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The monthly date (22nd) of my wife's death passed and for the first time since her death I forgot about until a few days after. I would like to think this is a healthy sign
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Old 03-24-2016, 09:01 AM
 
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The monthly date (22nd) of my wife's death passed and for the first time since her death I forgot about until a few days after. I would like to think this is a healthy sign
It is a healthy sign! It's a sign that you're moving on and doing okay. It's one of those things that you can't predict but when you realize it you have a few mixed feelings.
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Old 03-24-2016, 09:53 AM
 
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It's quite possible your wife was in a state of perdition and has passed from the earthly dimension and the next dimension into what has been termed the great beyond. They say people move on or heal on their life journey.
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Old 03-24-2016, 12:58 PM
 
Location: home state of Myrtle Beach!
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The monthly date (22nd) of my wife's death passed and for the first time since her death I forgot about until a few days after. I would like to think this is a healthy sign
I believe it is! It's been 8 months and 2 days for me. I have forgotten several months to remember the date.
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Old 03-24-2016, 01:02 PM
 
Location: in here, out there
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People tend to remember the good things and forget about the painful things. Otherwise, you would go crazy.
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Old 03-25-2016, 12:47 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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This is nothing to feel bad about. The healing process lets us adapt and move on. Youll never forget her but there comes a time to build on her good examples and make a new life she would be proud of. God bless.
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Old 03-26-2016, 11:39 AM
 
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My husband died on the 6th of December, 2014. I noticed the date on the 6th of January, but not after that. In fact, I was such a mess, I didn't know what any day was. Now I'm not that much of a mess, but some people don't live by the calendar. I have to ask the date whenever I write a check. So does it mean that because I don't notice the 6th as it happens every month that I don't still grieve and miss my husband? NO. Do I feel guilty if I notice that I didn't notice the date? NO. My husband knew that I wasn't calendar centered, and he loved me anyway. Would he want me to change because he died? No. Forgetting the date is by no means a measure at where you are in your grieving process, and it is not a measure of how you are doing. Only you can say how you are doing, and that will vary from hour to hour and day to day. Other people see you and make judgments about your emotional state, but they can only use externals to make those judgments (how you smile, dress, talk, etc.) They cannot know what is going on in your heart unless you tell them. So no, I don't think you should feel guilty about missing the date, but neither do I think it is necessarily a sign-post of "moving on."
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Old 03-27-2016, 03:54 PM
 
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Yes, I think it's a natural and healthy sign.
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Old 03-30-2016, 06:48 AM
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I think it is good. You probably have a lot of memories that you can remember as part of your life together, chose those thoughts not a marker on a calendar.
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