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Old 04-24-2016, 01:12 PM
 
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Sherwin B. Nuland, in his 1994 best-seller, “How We Die,” wrote, “Modern dying takes place in the modern hospital, where it can be hidden, cleansed of its organic blight, and finally packaged for modern burial.” Caitlin Doughty’s goal is to end our deliberate estrangement from the dead body.

Our Bodies, Ourselves - The New Yorker
By Rebecca Mead
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Old 04-24-2016, 01:59 PM
 
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Good luck, the entire U.S. popular culture is about the denial of death.
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Old 04-25-2016, 08:40 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Sherwin B. Nuland, in his 1994 best-seller, “How We Die,” wrote, “Modern dying takes place in the modern hospital, where it can be hidden, cleansed of its organic blight, and finally packaged for modern burial.” Caitlin Doughty’s goal is to end our deliberate estrangement from the dead body.

Our Bodies, Ourselves - The New Yorker
By Rebecca Mead
Very nice article in The New Yorker. I like the attitudes of the people.
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Old 04-28-2016, 05:31 PM
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Location: Cary, NC
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Good luck, the entire U.S. popular culture is about the denial of death.
This is so true. All one needs to do is look at the Retirement forum here on CD; nobody's planning to get sick or have a stroke and lose all matter of independence. It's Pollyanna Central over there.

I just finished the book Being Mortal by Atul Gawande. VERY good book on end-of-life issues, dying, palliative care, hospice, nursing homes, etc. It should be required reading for everyone!
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Old 04-28-2016, 10:08 PM
 
Location: Beautiful Upstate NY!
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My choice would be to die in my backyard, enveloped in the warmth of the Autumn sun.
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Old 04-28-2016, 11:19 PM
 
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Its not always the greatest idea.


My grandmother was a young woman, and the youngest daughter, back around 1916. Funeral parlors were just getting started. People used to have funerals in their homes, then, started a combination of services, etc, in homes and funeral parlors.


My grandmother lost both her parents within 3 months, and a niece and sister. It all fell to her to do the body prep, laying out, services, all in the home. She was about 23--24 at the time. The last funeral, her mother, she had a breakdown. She simply couldn't handle one more dead body! Her husband---my grandfather---said enough's enough. He paid for the funeral at a funeral parlor. He said she'd done enough, let the "experts" take over.
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Old 04-29-2016, 12:35 AM
 
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My choice would be to die in my backyard, enveloped in the warmth of the Autumn sun.


Like the Godfather?
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Old 04-29-2016, 02:08 AM
 
Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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This is so true. All one needs to do is look at the Retirement forum here on CD; nobody's planning to get sick or have a stroke and lose all matter of independence. It's Pollyanna Central over there.

I just finished the book Being Mortal by Atul Gawande. VERY good book on end-of-life issues, dying, palliative care, hospice, nursing homes, etc. It should be required reading for everyone!
Aren't those two different issues? My dad was in the hospital, but came home to die with the help of hospice. I feel like a lot of people are going back to dying at home when it's possible.
I hope that I die at home after I live a good long life, without needing extensive care, but it certainly doesn't mean I'm in denial of death.
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Old 04-29-2016, 06:31 AM
 
Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada.
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The Canadian Parliament is in the middle of debates about changing the law about "the right to die at the time, and place of your choosing ".


In essence it means that IF a person meets the proposed guidelines, they would be able to die, with the aid of a Medical Doctor who is agreeable to help them. No MD would be forced to do this. The guidelines are ...over age 18, with a life ending non treatable disease, or traumatic injury, and be capable of giving an informed consent .


This will , in my opinion , be a welcome step in the right direction for many suffering people.


On the subject of "dying at home " and home funerals. That is somewhat popular here, especially in small towns, and in isolated northern communities. Many of the ethnic religious groups also do that, for religious reasons. In cities there are companies that provide "basic funeral services " for less than $600. No expensive casket, no burial ( cremation ) and a minimum of fuss. That is my plan. I will put aside a few hundred dollars for a party, for my friends. And a piper, to play the lament " Flowers of the Forest ".


Jim B.
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Old 04-29-2016, 10:51 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Our mother made us promise to let her die at home. My sister took care of her & followed her wishes. She had hospice in-home end of life help & a rented hospital bed which was placed in the frontroom was cranked up so she could see the lake she loved. We all were there for her in the end. It was much more personal & loving.
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