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Mother's day, the first since my son died. People wishing me a happy Mothers day. Finally I said to a good friend who, unthinking, said the above,"It's hard to be happy when my son is dead". She apologized & so did I, but it was not a happy day.
All the reminders that I was no longer a mother made me very sad.
Unfortunately Mother's Day is hard for a lot of people, not just those who have lost a child but those who had an absentee mother or an abusive mother. My friend lost her daughter in 2009 and we are sensitive to her on Mother's Day.
Mother's Day isn't just hard for those who were mothers or who didn't have ideal mothers but for those of us who never were mothers (and never will be).
To the OP: on Mother's Day, remember your son and be thankful that you knew the joy of being a mother. In fact, it is only because of that joy that you are now in so much pain.
And please don't feel guilty or apologize for grieving on Mother's Day--you are entitled. (((Hugs)))
All the reminders that I was no longer a mother made me very sad.
Meo, you ARE still a mother. You raised a child, faced all kinds of hardships for that child, held him, admonished him when necessary, loved him. He will always be your son and you will always be his mother. His passing does not take that away. You will be faced many times with the question "Do you have any kids?" The answer is "Yes, I have a son, but he has passed away." {Hugs}
Meo, you ARE still a mother. You raised a child, faced all kinds of hardships for that child, held him, admonished him when necessary, loved him. He will always be your son and you will always be his mother. His passing does not take that away. You will be faced many times with the question "Do you have any kids?" The answer is "Yes, I have a son, but he has passed away." {Hugs}
Big hug from me to you!!! you will be always the mother for your son. My aunt went through the same thing... but she started enjoying the mother's day with helping or going out for a dinner who was in the same age as her son but who suffers with out a mother or has a mother who is not in their lives. That relief her pain a lot. My thoughts with you!
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