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View Poll Results: Who would you spend that extra day with?
Friend 10 7.63%
Lover 16 12.21%
Family 105 80.15%
Voters: 131. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 07-29-2016, 10:05 AM
 
Location: Seattle Area
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I'd prefer one more day with my dog.
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Old 07-29-2016, 10:09 AM
 
Location: San Francisco Bay Area
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My beloved grandfather passed on in February 1986 of natural causes. I was at his side, but never had a chance to tell him how much he meant to me, before he passed on. I would love to have had one more day to spend with him. We would have gone to lunch at his favorite restaurant and I would have just simply spent the day with him, telling him how much he meant to me.
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Old 07-29-2016, 10:22 AM
 
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To be honest, no one who's died yet….not even my mom.
Also are you tailing about one more day with them healthy and and us chatting and having a great time. OR, one more day with them at the end of their lives? Because that's more than just asking if you'd spend one more day with them.

-- An aunt close to me had colon cancer and was ill at the end.
-- My mom had Alzheimers, but did NOT live to the later stages, so she still knew who people were. She died sitting on her front porch on a bright October day talking to one of her grandchildren.

Just having them LIVE one more day at the end…..to what avail? I had mourned losing them before they passed away, so by the time they did. All had been said.
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Old 07-29-2016, 10:35 AM
 
Location: Booth Texas
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My beloved grandfather passed on in February 1986 of natural causes. I was at his side, but never had a chance to tell him how much he meant to me, before he passed on. I would love to have had one more day to spend with him. We would have gone to lunch at his favorite restaurant and I would have just simply spent the day with him, telling him how much he meant to me.
I chose friend but grandfather is next, nothin like a cool grandfather...Our family unites at a Mexican food place called Larry's.........it'S our second home, yup to sit and eat, have some cold beer from tap and pass the hot sauce, did you hear what Mary did yesterday?

Fun just to sit and catch up.

That friend I chose would sit comfortably not even talking and we would have fun just sitting in silence glancing at each other from time to time....It'S funny cause you just can't sit in silence with most people without it being awkward. It'S like we sit at an Indian diner and neither of us talk but really we are having an ongoing conversation without words. I can't do that with most people.
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Old 07-29-2016, 10:47 AM
 
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For me it would have to be my grandfather at this point in my life. I only ever had one, and he was an amazing man. Now, if my wife or children had died already, I would choose them.
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Old 07-29-2016, 02:11 PM
 
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For me, if I was given that gift

I'd pass it on to my daughter, so she could have 1 more day with her mother (her best friend)
To exchange some words and thoughts ...
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Old 07-29-2016, 03:18 PM
 
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my dog hannibal. to me, he was more human than most humans.
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Old 07-29-2016, 03:41 PM
 
Location: Santa Clara, CA
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Probably my mother. She had a more open attitude about my sexuality, unlike my father . And she would give me great advice!
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Old 07-29-2016, 04:55 PM
 
Location: S.W. Florida
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No,doubt about it, it would be my Dad. I was only 12 when he died and today at 61 I am still dealing with the impact of his death. Mostly what I would do is just stay near him and tell him how much I love him.
Never take a loved one for granted folks,leave nothing unsaid or undone.
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Old 07-30-2016, 05:42 PM
 
Location: In the house we finally own!
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I would choose my maternal grandfather. He was born in 1898, and died when I was 13. I am 60 now. I never got to really know him, he didn't say much. I know he had an interesting life, coached high school football, was in the military, lived through the great depression and could build just about anything. He was a good guy and I really wish I had gotten to know him better. But when I was 13 just getting through the hell that was junior high was about all I could manage.
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