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View Poll Results: Who would you spend that extra day with?
Friend 10 7.63%
Lover 16 12.21%
Family 105 80.15%
Voters: 131. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 07-28-2016, 02:10 PM
 
Location: Booth Texas
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It's a toss up between my best friend who died in her 30's and another one who killed himself. She was mad at me for being sick and not able to attend her husbands 40th birthday party. We never got to speak again because she died suddenly of meningitis a few weeks later.

For the one that committed suicide I saw it coming a mile away and no one that I talked to about it took it seriously. It's been three years of living with the agony that I should have done more. I don't delude myself into thinking that I could have prevented it. I just wish I had offered more support and told him that I treasured him as a friend. I think that regret will be with me forever.

It's had a profound change on the way I treat my loved ones. I never miss an opportunity to tell them how much I love and treasure them. I also hug them like I'll never see them again too. I don't ever want to feel this way again.
Yeah, you already know you shouldn't beat yourself up thinking you may have done something or said something cause you are right. I don't think that it was something you could have changed, I don't think it was done on an impulse but that it was something done after pondering it for a long time. Who knows why anyone kills themselves but with me, it would be regret.


I mean if I had something bothering me so bad as to commit suicide, regret is the only answer I have and it would be the only vehicle to get me that far, but I know for sure that if I set my mind on such a thing, nobody would be able to talk me down.


NOBODY COULD SAY OR DO ANYTHING.


And although we have enough sense to realize this, it still gnaws at us. ''If only I would have done this or that.''


NO, I doubt you could have made the least bit of difference.
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Old 07-28-2016, 02:40 PM
 
Location: Lake Arrowhead, Waleska, GA
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My grandpa (Poppa). I was 23 when he died in 1998 and I was a typical self-involved young guy. He was the only grandfather I ever had (my mom's dad died before I was born). Both of my parents are 'only' children, so my sister and I were the only grandkids and we were very close to him and both of our grandmothers. It has been almost 18 years since he died and I still miss him. I've always wondered if he knew how much I loved him because I wasn't around as much I should have been during the last year of his life...
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Old 07-28-2016, 03:13 PM
 
Location: Near Falls Lake
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My wife. We grew up together from the age of 8, married at 19 and had 37 years together. She died very unexpectedly and sadly, I didn't get to say goodbye. It's been 7 years and I think of her every day.
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Old 07-28-2016, 03:15 PM
 
Location: Booth Texas
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My grandpa (Poppa). I was 23 when he died in 1998 and I was a typical self-involved young guy. He was the only grandfather I ever had (my mom's dad died before I was born). Both of my parents are 'only' children, so my sister and I were the only grandkids and we were very close to him and both of our grandmothers. It has been almost 18 years since he died and I still miss him. I've always wondered if he knew how much I loved him because I wasn't around as much I should have been during the last year of his life...

Sure he knew how much you loved him and if he was like any of us, he knew that you were going to miss him like nobody's business.


I so dearly loved my grandfathers and they loved me and I know exactly how my grandson is going to think after I pass away, he is going to miss me like crazy cause he already don't want to leave my house ever. I will pay people just to play Minecraft with him he sure loves his Poppy, just the way I loved mine.
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Old 07-28-2016, 03:46 PM
 
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Although I did contribute to this thread, I did not take the poll. I would select my husband to see again. I certainly would not boil down my relationship to him as "lover" since we had a true partnership and loved each other deeply for so many years. To reduce it down to a word that mostly denotes having sex is demeaning, in my opinion. In addition, the term "family" is too broad to me. There is no answer that specifies that special spousal relationship, so I did not take the poll.
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Old 07-28-2016, 03:53 PM
 
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my dog
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Old 07-28-2016, 04:18 PM
 
Location: Booth Texas
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Although I did contribute to this thread, I did not take the poll. I would select my husband to see again. I certainly would not boil down my relationship to him as "lover" since we had a true partnership and loved each other deeply for so many years. To reduce it down to a word that mostly denotes having sex is demeaning, in my opinion. In addition, the term "family" is too broad to me. There is no answer that specifies that special spousal relationship, so I did not take the poll.
Sorry, yeah you are right, I should have planned it better.


I was looking for a word for mate, other half, but I wanted a difference between family and other half. I promise you, I am going to step my game up.
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Old 07-28-2016, 04:35 PM
 
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My parents and my wifes parents we had some good old times ...
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Old 07-28-2016, 05:30 PM
 
Location: Booth Texas
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My parents and my wifes parents we had some good old times ...
Cool to love the in laws, I always tried, it just never worked out. Come over to the house and throw my kid's breakfast on the floor cause it wasn't healthy enough. Father in law grabbed my mouth and although he was like a bear, they look down on me cause I put a bruise on his face. That's just what happens when somebody put they hands on me.


I really loved my in laws too, they never saw me like family.
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Old 07-28-2016, 05:37 PM
 
Location: Kirkwood, DE and beautiful SXM!
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My grandmother is the one who I would want one extra day with.
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