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Old 07-21-2016, 12:04 PM
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Ok so I have an aunt who was the glue that held our family together. She passed away 5 years ago, and over the years following her death, lots of people in my family and outside the family tell me I favor her. They even call me by her name as a nick-name of sorts just because i look similar to her.

I don't take it as an insult or anything bad, but it's more like...i don't know, to me it feels like I get told that so much as if it's going to bring her back to us. It does make me miss her a lot more though, i really miss talking to her...she was one of the few people who understood me, i'm the black sheep in the family. I miss her guidance, I miss her laughing, I miss her tell-it-like-it-is attitude and she always was in my corner. And the one thing that I, now that I look back on it, value and cherish was she kept it real with me. I just feel so lost than ever since she has been gone, i feel lost in life more than ever.

I don't want to live life 'through her', like what i think she wants me to do...but i just feel that sometimes i need to do things to honor her memory and how I made her proud. For example she loves music and she loved to dance, so I do that sometimes to get myself out of funks. She just made life fun and worth living, being at her house was some of my happy places where i felt comfortable at growing up.

I just really miss her and things have never been the same with her gone. Has anyone else ever gone through this? What do you feel about it and how do you cope (for lack of better words) with it?
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