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Old 01-04-2017, 11:18 AM
 
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Jimrich:

Thank you for sharing your experience. It gives hope where there is darkness.

Though he doesn't come to visit, I am blessed to have good memories to fall back on. Heck, I'm blessed to have had him in my life. I was given the opportunity to love him!

Thanks again.
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Old 01-13-2017, 01:13 PM
 
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I am so sorry............ Remember he is always with you IN SPIRIT and may let you know from time to time he IS there


I am so sorry
Why do people say. I am so sorry? What are u sorry about ? You feel bad for the OP? Absolutely.. You hope for the best for them? No doubt. You tell them you are there to help. ? Definitely...
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Old 01-13-2017, 05:17 PM
 
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Why do people say. I am so sorry? What are u sorry about ? You feel bad for the OP? Absolutely.. You hope for the best for them? No doubt. You tell them you are there to help. ? Definitely...
People are sorry to hear that another person has lost someone they love. And they are sorry that the person has to deal with such sadness.
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Old 01-13-2017, 07:20 PM
 
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Yes its always sad knowing someone is hurting.......

Its good to be able to try and comfort them jp03
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Old 01-13-2017, 10:09 PM
 
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Personally, I feel "I'm sorry" is one of the few things people can say that is appropriate. (I am assuming here that this is not someone really close, but acquaintances and strangers who find out.) There are so many much less helpful things that people say. Saying you are sorry expresses empathy for the person - you are sorry that they have had this painful loss.
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Old 01-14-2017, 09:24 AM
 
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Personally, I feel "I'm sorry" is one of the few things people can say that is appropriate. (I am assuming here that this is not someone really close, but acquaintances and strangers who find out.) There are so many much less helpful things that people say. Saying you are sorry expresses empathy for the person - you are sorry that they have had this painful loss.
Saying I'm sorry implies one did something wrong. You are not "sorry" you have sympathy.
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Old 01-15-2017, 12:14 AM
 
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Saying I'm sorry implies one did something wrong. You are not "sorry" you have sympathy.
adjective, sorrier, sorriest.
1.
feeling regret, compunction, sympathy, pity, etc.:
to be sorry to leave one's friends; to be sorry for a remark; to be sorry for someone in trouble.
2.
regrettable or deplorable; unfortunate; tragic:
a sorry situation; to come to a sorry end.
3.
sorrowful, grieved, or sad:
Was she sorry when her brother died?
4.
associated with sorrow; suggestive of grief or suffering; melancholy; dismal.
5.
wretched, poor, useless, or pitiful:
a sorry horse.

No, "sorry" does not have to imply that anyone did anything wrong. Notice that the definition includes "sympathy," "sad," "grieved," "regret."
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Old 01-15-2017, 12:11 PM
 
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adjective, sorrier, sorriest.
1.
feeling regret, compunction, sympathy, pity, etc.:
to be sorry to leave one's friends; to be sorry for a remark; to be sorry for someone in trouble.
2.
regrettable or deplorable; unfortunate; tragic:
a sorry situation; to come to a sorry end.
3.
sorrowful, grieved, or sad:
Was she sorry when her brother died?
4.
associated with sorrow; suggestive of grief or suffering; melancholy; dismal.
5.
wretched, poor, useless, or pitiful:
a sorry horse.

No, "sorry" does not have to imply that anyone did anything wrong. Notice that the definition includes "sympathy," "sad," "grieved," "regret."
No I understand. It's not the word sorry that is wrong. It's putting I'M..in front of it. e.g. Sorry for your loss is perfectly acceptable. I'm sorry implies fault. Picky? I guess
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Old 01-15-2017, 09:05 PM
 
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No I understand. It's not the word sorry that is wrong. It's putting I'M..in front of it. e.g. Sorry for your loss is perfectly acceptable. I'm sorry implies fault. Picky? I guess
Well yes, it's picky. I think we need to accept people's sadness to hear that you have had a loss. If they say "I'm saddened to hear it," "I feel sorrow over you loss," "you have my sympathy," "I'm grieved that you had to go through that," those might be alternatives, but most people are uncomfortable with it, and "I'm sorry" is about the best they can do. So we need to accept it and go on. I always just say "Thank you." (It implies that I thank them for thinking about my feelings and commiserating in my sorrow.)

Any of these are better than saying "He's in a better place" or "God only gives us what we can handle" or a whole bunch of other insensitive things. (I once talked to a mother who had lost her son to a drug overdose and an acquaintance said to her "I'm sorry, but really, you're better off without him.)!!!
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