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Old 08-28-2016, 05:44 PM
 
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I don't mean to say that everyone has to do what I did. I understand that everyone is different and each incident of grief is different. Whatever feels right is what you should do.
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Old 08-29-2016, 07:28 AM
 
Location: PA
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We are here and you are not alone in your grief!

My father passed earlier this month, and my Mom passed a couple years ago. I felt torn getting pictures together...terribly sad at the time. Yet, when I go back and look at pictures now, it helps me feel close to them. I have even taken a picture and put it in front of me as I had breakfast once, pretending they were there.
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Old 08-29-2016, 08:46 AM
 
Location: In a house
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I thought once that first year passed I would feel better but then reality set in (for me). Everyone handles grief differently and there is not right or wrong way or time line. This year is my second year without my husband on Sept 10th and it's been very sad.
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Old 08-29-2016, 10:53 AM
 
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I thought once that first year passed I would feel better but then reality set in (for me). Everyone handles grief differently and there is not right or wrong way or time line. This year is my second year without my husband on Sept 10th and it's been very sad.
I'm so sorry for your loss cynwldkat. Hugs to you.
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Old 08-30-2016, 04:35 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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meo, I have been a reluctant member of this board for going on 5 years now. I have been reading your posts and want to tell you I felt the same way, I think we all probably did in the beginning but the searing/numbing, head and heart pounding pain WILL ease up a little as time marches on. I never thought it would. It did. It is now a rare day that I cry. I do still have bouts but far and few between now.

Wishing you peace for your soul,
Tami
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Old 08-30-2016, 08:08 PM
 
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meo, My grandmother lost her 2.5 year old son. It was long before I was born (it was before the birth of my mother,) so I have no idea what she went through in the early years. But my remembrance of my grandmother is that of a very loving, active, cheerful soul who loved to cook, knit, paint, and was always chuckling at something. When she died, however, she had requested that a little outfit of her lost child was to be folded in her arms as she lay in the casket. So all those years, she carried with her the grief of losing her little one, yet managed to live a happy, productive, and very valued life. (I certainly valued her greatly.) To me it illustrated that the sadness will never be completely gone, but life can still return to its joyous state. I hope that for all who have lost a child.
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Old 08-30-2016, 08:49 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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Beautiful story, GG. Thank you.
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Old 09-05-2016, 03:44 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Maybe hold off on the photo album assembly and don.t feel bad over holding off: remember he was greater than any picture or material object.
I'm doing that, at least for now. Just too painful yet, at the same time some make me so joyous. He was always so happy. It's nice to see that smile.
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Old 09-07-2016, 12:42 AM
 
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Im so sorry to everyone on this thread who has lost thier other
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Old 09-07-2016, 08:30 AM
 
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Im so sorry to everyone on this thread who has lost thier other
Thank you, dear.
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