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Old 12-11-2017, 06:14 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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My husband told me to find another love. I told him no then but he wanted me to so bad that I quit arguing with him. I WAS scared to be alone and lonely but it's not so bad. I do miss him and being a couple but on the other hand I love being my own boss and having to answer to no one. I am (was) an only child so I am used to being alone. My selfishness is well taken care of now. I would trade everything if he could be back and healthy but I have to deal with the cards we were dealt.

I am sure your hubby would want the very best for you in his absence. Sounds like you are doing okay. Congrats.
Seven years for me. I think I don't think about it the way I used to, and I really don't, but I get sick every year around the anniversary.
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Old 12-12-2017, 03:27 PM
 
Location: northern New England
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Almost 3 years here. Still wearing the wedding ring (gained weight and couldn't take it off if I wanted to!) No desire to date or remarry. He was my one and only love.
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Old 12-16-2017, 03:27 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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Almost 3 years here. Still wearing the wedding ring (gained weight and couldn't take it off if I wanted to!) No desire to date or remarry. He was my one and only love.
LOL, I had to grease up to get it off even though I'd lost weight.
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Old 12-16-2017, 07:43 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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I took my wedding rings off two years ago when I came to Florida. Even though I have absolutely no interest in another man, I felt like taking the rings off was the best for me. Helped me get on with my life without him. I don't need rings to symbolize what is in my heart anymore. I bought myself a nice birthstone ring to wear. Lol, diamonds being my birthstone, I had fun picking out that one!!
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Old 12-18-2017, 07:06 AM
 
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If your departed loved one could be brought back to life. Would you want them back?
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Old 12-18-2017, 09:59 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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If your departed loved one could be brought back to life. Would you want them back?
Brought back healthy?? You bet!!!
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Old 12-18-2017, 06:13 PM
 
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Hi Tam, good to see you on CD. I am 5 1/2 years widowed. I am no longer in grief. I don't miss my husband anymore, life goes on. I have a doggie I adopted 2 1/2 years ago, she is the love of my life. I am not ready to date but I would love to share my life with someone special but at my age it is hard. Every one is set in their ways. So, I probably will remain single.
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Old 12-19-2017, 07:55 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Hi, Granite. I do, to a point, still miss hubby because he taught me how a woman should be treated. Not beaten. Respected. No way am I going to see what is out there. Companionship be dam_ned.
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Old 05-17-2018, 10:47 PM
 
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it's been since November 2016. i misplaced the ring he gave me for our engagement when i got a rash, somewhere in my room. when i'd almost lost it shortly after the engagement he had told me as long as we loved each other, that didn't matter. a couple of times recently i've experienced signs of birds (he loved birds) soaring over my roof as after he died.
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Old 05-18-2018, 11:28 PM
 
Location: home state of Myrtle Beach!
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I let him go weeks before he died. Living through the abuse and his addictions for 35 years, I'd had enough! I just got an appraisal for our wedding rings last week. When the time is right I will sell them and then I think I will go to the beach and maybe buy a nice sapphire ring. I haven't worn rings for about 10 years, he's been gone just shy of 3 years.
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