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Old 09-08-2016, 02:36 PM
 
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So the reason for my post I suppose is a bit odd. I am married and was on a works night out a few weeks ago. I spent quite a bit of the night talking to one of our ops guys, we had a laugh and it was just friendly banter. He then tried it on with me, pleaded even and I rejected him but we carried on talking and everything was cool. I gave him a peck on the cheek as I was leaving and that was that. Fast forward to Monday morning and I find out he died in a fatal drink driving accident an hour after I left. I feel so sad and I have no idea why? Maybe I feel responsible if I hadn't blown him out he would not drink drove I don't know. Feel so sad for his parents and his son. Any help or direction greatfully appreciated x
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Old 09-08-2016, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I am sorry for your loss.

While I seriously doubt that "blowing him off" had anything to do with his drunk driving accident it is a reminder to everyone that if you suspect that someone (friend or foe, co-worker or stranger) is going to be driving drunk it is the responsible and moral thing to do to try to stop them.
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Old 09-09-2016, 08:48 AM
 
Location: Somewhere in northern Alabama
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You are not responsible. It is as simple as that. Sorry that you lost a colleague.
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Old 09-09-2016, 07:44 PM
 
Location: Midland, MI
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I've often thought that a work pal would be hard to lose. You spend so much time with those people, even more than your own family.

You can't hold yourself responsible; you just didn't have any control over his death.
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Old 09-11-2016, 12:16 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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That would bother me, too. It's not your fault. He didn't say anything like, "Please stay and talk to me because I'm severely depressed." You're not a mind reader.
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Old 09-13-2016, 08:54 AM
 
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If you had not turned him down, finished talking and left on your own.

Another turn of fate is maybe you would have gotten in the car also and also died in the crash.

Your good sense may have saved your life.
He made his decision and it ended badly, you made yours and it ended well.
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Old 09-13-2016, 10:17 PM
 
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So the reason for my post I suppose is a bit odd. I am married and was on a works night out a few weeks ago. I spent quite a bit of the night talking to one of our ops guys, we had a laugh and it was just friendly banter. He then tried it on with me, pleaded even and I rejected him but we carried on talking and everything was cool. I gave him a peck on the cheek as I was leaving and that was that. Fast forward to Monday morning and I find out he died in a fatal drink driving accident an hour after I left. I feel so sad and I have no idea why? Maybe I feel responsible if I hadn't blown him out he would not drink drove I don't know. Feel so sad for his parents and his son. Any help or direction greatfully appreciated x
This has to be trolling....one post, terrible grammar.

Anyone taking bets they never return?
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