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Old 09-30-2016, 05:42 PM
 
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Many people wouldn't be able to talk to their relatives on a regular basis with social media. It is the way of the future, even if some don't like it. I posted my mother's obituary on social media. That was the best and fastest way to let everyone know. I have no regrets and could care less if anyone else finds it distasteful or tacky. It's their issue, not mine and I don't care.
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Old 10-02-2016, 06:44 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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Sorry, I don't get what you mean by this. Can you elaborate, thinkalot?
What is there to elaborate? Everyone doesn't check for condolences online. Everyone gets mail.
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Old 10-02-2016, 08:50 PM
 
Location: Sonoran Desert, AZ
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What is there to elaborate? Everyone doesn't check for condolences online. Everyone gets mail.
Gee, after my wife passed away I did check for online condolences every day. I do not get the mail every day since I have to drive in town to the post office to get it. 3 times a week is about my average to get the mail.

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Old 10-03-2016, 01:27 AM
 
Location: San Francisco
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What is there to elaborate? Everyone doesn't check for condolences online. Everyone gets mail.
Oh, I see. I think we were talking at cross purposes. You were talking about sending a condolence card. I thought you meant I should have written to the man's address to try to find out what happened to him rather than looking on the internet. Sorry for the misunderstanding. I may still send a cart, although I am a stranger to his widow. Even though she doesn't know me, she might still appreciate hearing from one of his online friends.
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Old 10-08-2016, 04:02 PM
 
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Yes, I had his physical address, and we had exchanged cards and gifts in the past. Because we lived 5,000 miles apart - he in South Wales and I in San Francisco - it wouldn't have been practical to go check on him in person. Any correspondence might have taken a week to 10 days to arrive, and if a family member had written back, I would have had to wait at least another week to 10 days for the reply to arrive. The internet was a lot more efficient.
No one would deny that the internet is more efficient. But is efficiency the most important factor in death? In your case, you're on the other side of the world, so what difference does it make if you wait an extra week or two for the news?

I think this is one area where the classic etiquette can really be appreciated - the personal touch of individual notification whenever possible, and the personal touch of the hand-written note.
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Old 10-08-2016, 05:33 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in northern Alabama
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I'm going to tone it down for this forum, but that is a crap article. There is meat in the concept of writing an article like that, but to turn it into a happy meal is sick (not in a good way).

If you have experienced the death of a loved one, you learn things. If you set yourself up as the administrator of a memorial page, you learn a lot more things. The author of the article doesn't know squat and has a lot to learn.
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