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Old 10-03-2016, 12:03 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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If so, how exactly was the healing process for you like?

Also, for the record, I have been inspired to ask this question after reading Pete Earley's 1986 article about the death of his sister Alice.
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Old 10-08-2016, 01:17 PM
 
Location: Sonoran Desert, AZ
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My father was killed in an airplane crash in 1954. I was only 8 at the time, so it was impossible for me to understand what was going on.
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Old 10-08-2016, 07:56 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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My father was killed in an airplane crash in 1954. I was only 8 at the time, so it was impossible for me to understand what was going on.
Sorry to hear that. Indeed, it must be awful losing a close family member at just a young age!
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Old 10-14-2016, 10:04 PM
 
Location: British Columbia
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Yes, my Dad. He was a commerical fisherman, in January 1987 he and 6 crew members were lost at sea. Nothing was ever found. In 2008 my M.I.L. was driving to visit my 18 year old daughter, who had just started university one week prior. She lost concouisness and hit another driver head-on.
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Old 10-17-2016, 05:59 PM
 
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Yes, my Dad. He was a commerical fisherman, in January 1987 he and 6 crew members were lost at sea. Nothing was ever found.
Sorry to hear that.

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In 2008 my M.I.L. was driving to visit my 18 year old daughter, who had just started university one week prior. She lost concouisness and hit another driver head-on.
Did your mother-in-law die shortly after losing consciousness in 2008?
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Old 10-18-2016, 06:42 AM
 
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Yes, my Dad. He was a commerical fisherman, in January 1987 he and 6 crew members were lost at sea. Nothing was ever found. In 2008 my M.I.L. was driving to visit my 18 year old daughter, who had just started university one week prior. She lost concouisness and hit another driver head-on.
Ouch! I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. The loss of loved ones hurt, especially when you get a double whammy like that. Losing loved ones, including parents and in-laws is tough, no matter how old one is.
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Old 10-18-2016, 11:49 PM
 
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Sorry to hear that.



Did your mother-in-law die shortly after losing consciousness in 2008?
Yes, at the accident scene. Coroner says accident killed her.
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Old 10-19-2016, 12:23 AM
 
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Yes, my baby sister (who nearly died at birth but then recovered and was a strong beautiful young woman when she was killed by a drunk boater (not a young kid, this guy was a 45 year old veterinarian) in 1984. She was 29. Took 3 days to find her body in the lake.


My mother had cancer at the time and died a year and a half later - the loss of my sister didn't help make her last days happy. My father was shaken up completely - and though he didn't say much I found evidence of that after his death 4 years ago, in his papers .. where he wrote long pieces about how he was feeling about losing her. I didn't see her body before it was cremated so I think it didn't quite register on my brain that she was really gone - so for years afterward I 'saw' her on street corners and in familiar places .. can't quite recall when that stopped happening but it took at least 10 years. I didn't cry out to her but I was always taken aback when that happened.


My heart goes out to all of you who have lost loved ones in accidents. Much as I know also how hard it is to lose someone after a long illness, I think for most of us it is probably harder to experience the loss of someone suddenly and never really feel you had a chance to say goodbye.
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Old 10-20-2016, 12:34 PM
 
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I lost my fiance 17 days before our wedding. We were both 26. Motorcycle accident, not his fault.
It didn't seem possible, you read about these things but it doesn't happen to you.
Relocation helped some, counseling helped a lot.

Now I'm almost 60, married my true love in my early 40's. Life is great! My late 20's seems like someone else's life, if that makes sense.
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Old 10-30-2016, 04:53 PM
 
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I had a good friend who got killed in a fight.
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