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Old 11-22-2016, 02:10 AM
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Does one stick to the wish of the deceased ofno family no people at funeral or does one give people information that the person died so they can say their goodbyes attend funeral service. Concerns a very dysfunctional family.
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Old 11-22-2016, 02:12 AM
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The complete story is way too long so would be a wall of text.......so kept question short.
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Old 11-22-2016, 02:52 AM
 
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Does one stick to the wish of the deceased ofno family no people at funeral or does one give people information that the person died so they can say their goodbyes attend funeral service. Concerns a very dysfunctional family.
If you are the person they asked to take care of their funeral, and you agreed. You do it.

The time to say no was when the person was alive.
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Old 11-22-2016, 03:03 AM
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No it is not me that is in charge of the funeral and no I did not agree to anything. Things where decided long ago and no I was not involved in it.
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Old 11-22-2016, 03:04 AM
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Just looking for some opinions different viewpoints on this.
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Old 11-22-2016, 10:47 AM
 
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IMO, as long as the deceased was in full control of their mind when making that decision, then that wish should be observed. It is part of the final contract. I don't break contracts.
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Old 11-22-2016, 02:07 PM
 
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I was selfish. My dad did not want a wake but I had one...for me and my daughter. I just couldn't let him go without people saying good bye to him or meeting him for the first time. Everyone at work knew OF him, I always talked about my dad. My hubby was not too pleased with me about it and when HE was dying, he swore me to not go against his wishes of no wake, no funeral. Considering it took the rotten head of the VA down Cape Cod 7 months to approve hubby's cremation, hubby got his wish. No wake and just lil ole me listening to Taps.
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Old 11-22-2016, 02:53 PM
 
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Respect their last wishes. Its the least you could do. BUT....

You could have a luncheon/tea where you invite friends and family later, just to get together. Not on the same day.
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Old 11-22-2016, 05:21 PM
 
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Respect what the deceased wanted, what you think of it or what you do on your own time after is your own concern.
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Old 11-22-2016, 05:57 PM
 
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Agree with others. Should you choose to have a memorial of some sort, do it on your own. Honor the wishes of the deceased in that no services be held at the time of interment. Afterwards do as you please.
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