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Old 02-03-2017, 03:59 PM
 
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Isn't it considered in bad taste to snap pictures of family and people at funerals? My Father passed away recently and I know I will encounter an odd cousin who seems to think it's a family reunion and loves to snap pix of everyone at funerals. I am concerned he will do this yet again at my Fathers funeral and I am not really in the mood for a cheerful photoshoot. Not to mention IO have 2 young daughters and this guy has been in trouble in the past having inappropriate photos of young girls. How would you handle this person?
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Old 02-03-2017, 06:48 PM
 
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I would tell this cousin directly "NO photos at the funeral or reception." This is your right to request. It should be a condition of his coming to the funeral. If you know he has done this before, don't drop hints; tell him directly. If he agrees, I would alert another male member of your family, and if he tries to do it (even though he has agreed not to) have that person deal with him. Taking photos at funerals is in poor taste if everyone does not agree. Sometimes there are "celebrations of life" where people might want this. But if the family doesn't want it, then it should not be done. Period.
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Old 02-03-2017, 08:47 PM
 
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sorry for your loss..

....tell him, NO PHOTOS!!...if he still shows up with his camera, punch him in the face...sorry, just my two cents
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Old 02-03-2017, 08:53 PM
 
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Just tell him he is not invited as he has no understanding of boundaries.
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Old 02-04-2017, 10:35 AM
 
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You can also ask the funeral director to ask folks with cameras to return the equipment to the car. They usually stand near the door to direct folks, so he could be your first line of defense.
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Old 02-04-2017, 11:35 AM
 
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I'm not sure what the big deal is... when i die I would prefer my family to have the cliche celebration of life. Rather than gloom I'd rather people be laughing and smiling. If they want to make a family reunion out of it then great. Snap pics have the reception put doors with some of my favorite music. Much more my style and how I'd want to be remembered than a stuffy event. I find these things to not be disrespectful.
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Old 02-04-2017, 01:00 PM
 
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I'm not sure what the big deal is... when i die I would prefer my family to have the cliche celebration of life. Rather than gloom I'd rather people be laughing and smiling. If they want to make a family reunion out of it then great. Snap pics have the reception put doors with some of my favorite music. Much more my style and how I'd want to be remembered than a stuffy event. I find these things to not be disrespectful.
That is fine for you; you can request a service how ever you want. But everyone is not you. As said before, if the family doesn't want it, then no photos should be taken.
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Old 02-04-2017, 01:44 PM
 
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My brother's funeral was photographed by the funeral director's staff to give to my brother's daughter. I had to ask his daughter not to post photos on Facebook of all of us crying and sobbing at his graveside, which is what she had planned to do. She finally just posted general photos of the military service, without any photos of us grieving.

I'd grab your odd cousin's camera and hide it from him.

I'm sorry for your loss, Tabbychic
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Old 02-04-2017, 02:36 PM
 
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Sorry for your loss.

No it isn't considered bad taste.

Many family members may not have seen each other for several years, and may not see each other again for several more. In many cases funerals and weddings DO serve as family reunions.

If you are an only child then you certainly should have your wishes granted, but if you have other siblings, perhaps their input might be sought as well.

Ultimately it is a personal decision and the wishes of the family (all of them) should come first.
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Old 02-04-2017, 03:53 PM
 
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Is this REALLY about photos? I kinda can't believe THAT is why the OP doesn't want the guy there.

If I had some family member or friend of the family who has gotten in trouble for having pics of underage children, he would not be allowed in the funeral home at all. I'd post my biggest, toughest looking cousins at the door and keep him the heck away from everyone.
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