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Old 02-06-2017, 08:05 AM
 
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A friend passed away recently, he was only 51. So a mutual friend posts on his FB page instead of posting on the deceased person's page or their partner's page. They made it all about themselves and got a lot of responses with consolement. Mind you this person wasn't even good friends with this person, he just hung around him in parties or social gatherings.
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Old 02-06-2017, 08:20 AM
 
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for me it is look like you are not sad about your passed friend you are pissed about a mutual friend for posting on FB. Life is short and things happen.
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Old 02-06-2017, 08:39 AM
 
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for me it is look like you are not sad about your passed friend you are pissed about a mutual friend for posting on FB. Life is short and things happen.
You are very wrong. I am very saddened. This person was my friend and it's a tragic loss. I just don't like someone else making it all about them. Sure you can post so your other friends who didn't know can send condolences, but post on the person's page who passed away, not just on your own.
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Old 02-06-2017, 09:27 AM
 
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No one should denigrate your sadness at the loss of a friend.

As for the facebook person, there are some people in this world for whom everything is about them. They lack maturity and are self-centered. It happens. You just need to get past it. Unfriend or just don't look at facebook for a few days.

Sorry about your friend.
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Old 02-06-2017, 11:09 AM
 
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No one should denigrate your sadness at the loss of a friend.

As for the facebook person, there are some people in this world for whom everything is about them. They lack maturity and are self-centered. It happens. You just need to get past it. Unfriend or just don't look at facebook for a few days.

Sorry about your friend.
Thanks, you are right it's immature to demand so much attention. He's not a bad guy, some people just don't realize how big their egos are.

I also think if a friend passed away you should refrain about posting other things for at least a week. I won't be posting political or humorous things out of respect for a while.
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Old 02-06-2017, 02:46 PM
 
Location: The house I built
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I posted a letter to my wife on her facebook page. I actually got a phone call from a friend I have not seen in many years telling me to stop posting that stuff cause it made "him" feel bad.

I stopped posting altogether for awhile after that. And I expect to never hear from that person again.

I have come to the conclusion that there is just about nothing anyone can say to us, there are no words, that will ease our inner pain. What we get from these forums is the understanding that we are not unique and what we are feeling and struggling with is very similar to what everyone else has or is going through.

It is just part of our support network.
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Old 02-06-2017, 02:49 PM
 
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A friend passed away recently, he was only 51. So a mutual friend posts on his FB page instead of posting on the deceased person's page or their partner's page. They made it all about themselves and got a lot of responses with consolement. Mind you this person wasn't even good friends with this person, he just hung around him in parties or social gatherings.
How do you know how well he knew him? And what's wrong with him posting about his grief? People mourn in different ways.
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Old 02-06-2017, 02:51 PM
 
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I posted a letter to my wife on her facebook page. I actually got a phone call from a friend I have not seen in many years telling me to stop posting that stuff cause it made "him" feel bad.
That's unfair. He could choose to unfollow her until he is able. You should grieve in whatever way you need to.
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Old 02-06-2017, 05:30 PM
 
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How do you know how well he knew him? And what's wrong with him posting about his grief? People mourn in different ways.
Because I was friends with the person who died and I knew who his other friends were, this person was more of an acquaintance and is looking for attention on Facebook. There is nothing wrong with his grief, but he did post about an event/rally he went to on Saturday, so he wasn't that shaken up.
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Old 02-06-2017, 05:53 PM
 
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Facebook is an exercise in malignant narcissism. Unfortunately many people measure their social and self worth through it and don't even realise they do so.
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