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Old 02-06-2017, 06:30 PM
 
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If not for an unknowable and untreatable cancer that took her from this world on December 29th, 2013, my mother would have turned 73 today. At times our shared life felt like a Ruth Rendell short story waiting to happen, but she took on the job of raising and caring for a disabled son (me) on her own and did it bloody well.

Many times I questioned her methods but never her motives. The actions she took and the decisions she made were always out of love and a desire to bring about whatever she thought was best for us both. There were many times I wished she'd been more flexible and just as many times I could have listened and understood her better, but I'm here today because of the resolve she taught me.

I played her favourite Queen song early this morning and let myself feel sad for a while (my family doesn't do emotions as a rule). Now I'm determined to look forward and be mindful of the past without letting it cast too great a shadow over the future.

'We are our own graveyards,' says Clive Barker. 'We squat amongst the tombs of the people we were. If we're healthy, every day is a celebration, a Day of the Dead, in which we give thanks for the lives that we lived, and if we are neurotic we brood and mourn and wish that the past was still present.'

I have learned a lot about myself and the world over the last three years. The most important lesson is that grief never gets easier. You just adapt to it and wait for the day when the happy memories come to mind ahead of the sad ones.

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Old 02-06-2017, 06:33 PM
 
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What a beautiful tribute to your mother, scribbles. All her hard work paid off ... she would be very proud of you. Happy Birthday to you, scribblesMum.


p.s. I am so very sorry for your loss.
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Old 02-08-2017, 08:37 PM
 
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What a beautiful tribute to your mother, scribbles. All her hard work paid off ... she would be very proud of you. Happy Birthday to you, scribblesMum.


p.s. I am so very sorry for your loss.
Was getting ready to post all that you wrote above.
So I will just second this.
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Old 02-08-2017, 08:54 PM
 
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Thanks to you both .
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