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Old 03-08-2017, 07:01 AM
 
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So, today we have heard that my sister in law saw two of her doctors last week, and had an MRI and CT scan on the day she died. The Coroner talked to her doctors and they could not sight a reason for her to have died from her ailments. So, we wait to see the outcome of the autopsy. If she died of something unforeseen, after all her treatments by different specialists, then OK.
But, seriously, if you go to the "esteemed" Cleveland Clinic for years, get passed around from specialist to specialist, and then still drop dead, what hope is there for any of us?

The Cleveland clinic isn't all it's cracked up to be, that being said if it's your time to go then it's your time to go no one can stop the cycle of life.
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Old 03-08-2017, 07:10 AM
 
Location: Vermont
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So, today we have heard that my sister in law saw two of her doctors last week, and had an MRI and CT scan on the day she died. The Coroner talked to her doctors and they could not sight a reason for her to have died from her ailments. So, we wait to see the outcome of the autopsy. If she died of something unforeseen, after all her treatments by different specialists, then OK.
But, seriously, if you go to the "esteemed" Cleveland Clinic for years, get passed around from specialist to specialist, and then still drop dead, what hope is there for any of us?
I'm sorry for your loss.


I suspect that if your sister-in-law was referred to the Cleveland Clinic by her primary care physician and they immediately did imaging they were pretty concerned about her condition and thought it was something that required diagnostic investigation. This certainly doesn't provide evidence that they did anything wrong.


Ultimately, though, you are correct. Death is inevitable and none of us have any hope of avoiding it.
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Old 03-08-2017, 07:27 AM
 
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We got a sad call in the middle of the night, last night. My husband's sister died, 1000 miles away. Of course, I am sad for the family, and I loved my SIL, but all I can think about is how expensive it will be for us to go up there for a funeral.
No arrangements have been made yet, but I'm hoping they will be later, not sooner, so we can drive instead of fly, etc.
I'm sorry to hear of this. When my father died, we did take into account how far away some family members were, and asked them if they planned on coming, so we could work out the dates in their favor. Perhaps they will do so as well.

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Old 03-08-2017, 07:32 AM
 
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No arrangements have been made yet, but I'm hoping they will be later, not sooner, so we can drive instead of fly, etc.
I understand....... It costs quite a bit.......... Driving is probably the best/inexpensive way......


God bless you,I am so sorry
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Old 03-08-2017, 07:58 AM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Thanks everyone.

Just to clarify. She was always a patient of CC, since her husband retired from there. She was not just referred there. She has been passed around from specialist to specialist for about two years, having to do with back pain, and a hip replacement. She had nothing wrong with her, that they knew of, that should have caused her to drop dead..no heart condition, etc. Today, a more appropriate title for the thread would be, feeling angry.

Of course, she did drop dead, so hopefully the autopsy will tell why. For some reason, I feel like it might have been an aneurism, but we'll see. I'm at the place where I hope it was something like that, and not something that should have been caught before.

It seems like there will be time until the funeral, so we will most likely be able to drive.

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Old 03-08-2017, 12:24 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I am sorry for your loss.

I have had several relatives where the funeral was held a full week after the death and in another case, three weeks after the death, to allow family members to get there.
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Old 03-08-2017, 02:27 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Leaving tomorrow. Driving.
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Old 03-08-2017, 07:28 PM
 
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Leaving tomorrow. Driving.
It's a long drive, so don't forget to be kind to yourself and rest when you need it.
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Old 03-14-2017, 11:15 AM
 
Location: Sneads Ferry NC/Randolph NJ/Cape Coral FL
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We got a sad call in the middle of the night, last night. My husband's sister died, 1000 miles away. Of course, I am sad for the family, and I loved my SIL, but all I can think about is how expensive it will be for us to go up there for a funeral.
No arrangements have been made yet, but I'm hoping they will be later, not sooner, so we can drive instead of fly, etc.
I can relate. My hubby passed last Monday in Cape Coral FL and I had to get him back to NJ as well as myself for his wake. NJ is where all the family is.

Funeral home was great with arrangements but they really don't want to wait for insurance....sigh
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Old 03-14-2017, 03:10 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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I can relate. My hubby passed last Monday in Cape Coral FL and I had to get him back to NJ as well as myself for his wake. NJ is where all the family is.

Funeral home was great with arrangements but they really don't want to wait for insurance....sigh
I am so sorry. In no way would I equate my experience to the loss you suffered. We all just do the best we can, right?
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