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Old 03-07-2017, 08:20 AM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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We got a sad call in the middle of the night, last night. My husband's sister died, 1000 miles away. Of course, I am sad for the family, and I loved my SIL, but all I can think about is how expensive it will be for us to go up there for a funeral.
No arrangements have been made yet, but I'm hoping they will be later, not sooner, so we can drive instead of fly, etc.
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Old 03-07-2017, 08:34 AM
 
Location: Wonderland
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I'm so sorry to hear this.

Death is rarely convenient. And families are so far flung these days.

Maybe your husband can let family know discreetly that if you're coming, you need a bit more time.
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Old 03-07-2017, 09:46 AM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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I'm so sorry to hear this.

Death is rarely convenient. And families are so far flung these days.

Maybe your husband can let family know discreetly that if you're coming, you need a bit more time.
Oh thanks, Kathryn. I was really just venting, I guess. We will adapt to whatever the plans are.

This is sort of an odd comparison, but I keep thinking of the times I was awakened in the middle of the night to have a baby. I would think to myself...no, no, please just let me go back to sleep and I promise I'll let you be born tomorrow. Birth, death and taxes.

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Old 03-07-2017, 10:15 AM
 
Location: In a house
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Gentlearts, I can totally relate with the majority of my family 2-3 thousand miles away and we aren't getting any younger. Hope things work out for the best for you and yours!
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Old 03-07-2017, 10:43 AM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Thanks, Cyn. The reality is really just hitting today.
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Old 03-07-2017, 05:43 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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So, today we have heard that my sister in law saw two of her doctors last week, and had an MRI and CT scan on the day she died. The Coroner talked to her doctors and they could not sight a reason for her to have died from her ailments. So, we wait to see the outcome of the autopsy. If she died of something unforeseen, after all her treatments by different specialists, then OK.
But, seriously, if you go to the "esteemed" Cleveland Clinic for years, get passed around from specialist to specialist, and then still drop dead, what hope is there for any of us?
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Old 03-07-2017, 08:20 PM
 
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I had an aunt die just after a stress test at the doctors office. Sometimes it is just your time to go.

Sorry about your SIL
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Old 03-08-2017, 03:55 AM
 
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Sorry to read of this loss.
Regards to each family member as they gather to show respect for the departed soul.
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Old 03-08-2017, 07:51 AM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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Gentle

As far as time and costs go, consider just your husband going.
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Old 03-08-2017, 08:00 AM
 
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So, today we have heard that my sister in law saw two of her doctors last week, and had an MRI and CT scan on the day she died. The Coroner talked to her doctors and they could not sight a reason for her to have died from her ailments. So, we wait to see the outcome of the autopsy. If she died of something unforeseen, after all her treatments by different specialists, then OK.
But, seriously, if you go to the "esteemed" Cleveland Clinic for years, get passed around from specialist to specialist, and then still drop dead, what hope is there for any of us?
So sorry for your loss.
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